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As Ara was dropping the call, someone knocked on Ara's door and entered.

'Good afternoon Oluwashindara'

'A lovely afternoon to you Eyimofe' Ara said smiling.

'And to what do I owe this wonderful visit? Ara asked as she made a signal for him to have his seat.

'I came to see a client around here and I decided to stop by' Mofe replied.

'So how are you doing? Mofe asked.

'I'm doing great as usual' Ara said while hoping he didn't get to listen to the phone call she had with  her brother.

'You said you were not going be in Lagos  last weekend, where did you go to?

'I went to a place in Sango for a time alone out of the regular hustle bustles of lagos' Mofe answered.

'Is that where your parent's live or you stayed with a friend?

'Hmmmmmm... let's just say I was there alone for the weekend' Mofe said not wanting to say he was in the house he built in Sango, if for anything he wanted his friends to like him for who he is and not what he has.

'Forgive my manners, let me get you water' Ara said as she stood up to give him water from the cway dispenser in her office.

It's a pity I will be closing early today that you came visiting'

'That's no problem at all, I will gladly take my friend home' Mofe said

'Be careful what you say, you may take me home and get stuck in the usual Lagos traffic' Ara said as she tidied her desk.

'Anything for a friend' Mofe said and smiled.

Few minutes after that they were on their way home as a song by Nathaniel Bassey was playing from the car stero.

Ara's phone rang, she checked the caller and discovered that it was her friend Bimpe.

'Hello Hello o, how are you doing over there' Bimpe said into Ara's ears

Mofe reduced the volume of the song.

'Fine Fine, I'm doing great here'

'I was missing your voice and that's the rseason why I called' Bimpe said

'Missing my voice? I  must have won a lottery o' Ara said and they both laughed.

Bimpe and Ara continued talking when Bimpe suddenly remembers the issue about Ara's boss and decides to ask

'And how is your boss, hope he has changed?

'God has really taken control of that, he no longer disturbs me. He even went as far as apologizing to me for the difficult times he put me through' Ara said and caught Mofe stealing glances at her.

'Thank God for that, I'm confident that God's plan for you is not for you to marry a married man jare' Bimpe replied and they both laughed again.

They talked some more during which Bimpe told her she would coming home for the new year. Ara received the news with so much excitement that she was still smiling after ending the call.

'Must be a dear friend' Mofe said in a way to intiate conversation.

'She sure is. she is a dear friend who is currently outside the country on a study leave and should be back in time for the new year celebration.

Mofe was thinking of how best to ask about the 'he' Ara mentioned while speaking with her friend.

'And who was the 'he' you mentioned while talking to your friend? He might as well get it out.

'Oh that! We were talking about my boss, he was interested in me few months back, but all that is in the past now' Ara said.

Mofe couldn't explain the relief he felt at what he just heard, but he quickly switched to another topic before she could notice the effect of her words on him.

'Hope you have started writing your goals for the coming year? Mofe asked.

'I am not someone who writes o, I just flow with life' Ara said gesticulating with her hands

'I think that is not too good. how then do you measure your growth, how do you say if indeed you are improving when you don't keep a journal. I am not aalways very organized too, but I set realistic goals for my life.

He coughed and continued

'You can begin by setting goals in some main areas of your life like spiritual goals, financial goals, social goals and mental developmental goals. By doing that, you will be able to measure your growth' Mofe said.

'So how do I go about setting all this goal? Ara asked

'Okay. Your journal may look like this
Under Spiritual Goals
Your spiritual Yearly Goals could have:

To develop a more concrete relationship with God.

To read the Bible through this year.

To intercede more for people.

Then to further break it down, your monthly spiritual goals could look like this:

To have a consistent daily devotion which will help you achieve your yearly goal about developing a more concrete relationship with God.

To study the book of Genesis which will help you achieve the goal of reading the Bible through in a year.

To spend a minimum of 30 minutes in prayer which will help you achieve the yearly goal of interceding more for others.

Then your daily to-do listcould look like this. I believe you know what daily to-do list looks like? Mofe asked Ara

'Yes, although I don't stick to it' Ara replied.

'Okay no problem'

He continued

To have your daily devotion which will help you achieve the monthly goal of having consistent daily devotion.

To study two chapters of Genesis which will help you achieve the monthly goal of studying the book of Genesis.

To do a 30-minute prayer walk which will help you achieve the monthly goal of investing 30 minutes in the place of prayer.

To become mentally developed, your goals could follow this trend:

Your mental yearly goals could look like this:

To have a personal library of not less than 12 books by the end of the year.

To make friends with people who challenge me mentally.

To create or belong to a book club.

Then your monthly mental goals could look like this:

To buy a book by joyce Meyer this month which will help you achieve your yearly goal of to have a personal library of not less than 12 books by the end of the year.

To make friends with Derin (you can put the name of an individual who challenges you mentally) which will help you achieve your yearly goal of  making friends with people who challenge me mentally.

To join an online book club which will keep me more committed to my mental development and which will help fulfil the yearly goal of joining a book club.

Then your daily to-do list could look like this:

To read two chapters of Joyce Meyer book.

To chat up Derin.

To post lessons learnt from my book in the book club
Social Goals

I have to begin to call people

 I have to create out time to chat with my friends ( Even, when you can't call, once you have subscribed for a month, this should be very easy to do. Make a daily list of people within your circle that you have to chat with).

I have to make friends with people who are also serious with their lives.

 I have to minimize the time I spend on social media.
In a means to limit the time I spend on social media, I as a person put it into my to-do list.

So, in my daily to-do list, you could see something like 'don't go online until 8pm'.

There are times when by the end of the day, month or year when we would have surpassed your goals, but that shouldn't keep us away from making them.

'Your goals does not have to follow this trend, this is just a guide' Mofe said conclusively while taking a mock bow behind the wheels.

'I never saw it in this light, I will definetely  do something about it. Thank you Prof' Ara said as she clapped for him.

About 10 minutes later, she alighted at the T-junction leading to  her house while Mofe reversed to start his journey to his office space while thanking God he was a boss of himself and didn't have to report to anyone.

He made a mental note to make up for the two-hour break he had spent with Ara by working two hours overtime in the office.


Next Episode comes up on Saturday

October 10, 2018 No comments





'Today must be a good day o, because you rarely call me' Nifemi accused his younger sister.

'I'm sorry Egbon, how is family and work? Ara asked.

'We are doing great' Nifemi replied

'So, why are you calling?

'Can't I call just to ask about your wellbeing? Ara asked her brother.

'Of course you can, but I'm certain this is not one of such calls' Nifemi said and waited for his sister to talk.

'You're right, a brother in my church proposed to me' Ara said

'Okay, and what was your response?

'I told him to give me time to pray about it' Ara responded.

'And have you being praying? Nifemi asked.

'I actually prayed about it but.... I don't know' Ara said as she stood up from her table in the office.

'Hmmmmmm.  I'm confident that you know but I won't press further for the answer now' Nifemi said

'All I want to tell you is that you should pray well, thank God you decided to get counsel, buy whatever you have heard or will hear concerning this should be subjected to what will be communicated to your spirit'  Nifemi said

'And remember, God is not an author of confusion, trust Him to never leave you confused. I'm happily married now and so Is Dara, we wouldn't want anything less than that for you. Trust the one who knows 10 years, 20 years or even 70 years from now to help you make the right decision. Hope I am making  sense? Nifemi asked.

'Perfectly Sir, thank you so much for  your time' Ara said feeling as though a heavy load had been lifted from her head.

'Anything for you Aburo, do take care of yourself my child' Nifemi said laughing.

'I will do that dad' Ara said and joined in the laughter.

Ara ended the call and thinks back to when she was still much younger and her brother will sit her down to advice her, she had always rebelled wanting to do things her way.


Thank God she came to understand before it was too late. Although they were now far away from each other because he lives in a different state with his wife Esther and three children, their hearts was still linked together.

Next EpisodeComes Up Next Week Thursday

October 06, 2018 No comments











Mofe and Ara kept communicating with each other. They called themselves at least three times in a week, it was during one of such calls that Mofe invited Ara to a summit.

'I want to invite you to a program I will be volunteering at next weekend'

'And what's it about? Ara asked

'It's a program on self development, self awareness and a whole lot more' Mofe replied.

'Okay no problem, just do well to remind me a day before the program. And where is the venue?

'It's somewhere around Ikeja, I will send you the detailed description soon'

'No problem, do take care of yourself'

They talked some more before Mofe  ended the call.

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On the day of the program, Ara had left her house in Ikorodu two hours before time in order to be able to beat the usual Lagos traffic.

She contemplated on either using a public transport or a taxi, she decided  on going for a cab since she wouldn't want the Lagos conductors to soil her mood.

She soon saw one coming her way and flagged him down, after the usual talking over prices, they both decided on a price that was okay for both of them.

She got to the venue in good time and soon saw Mofe dressed in a Polo that seems to be the uniform for the volunteers.

She got into the hall and choose a seat that she could easily describe. She sent a message to Mofe that she was around and where her seat was.

Ara suddenly felt a hand covering her eyes from behind, she had guessed the person to be Mofe, only for her to discover it was Samuel her friend who is also the music director.

Ara said the first thing that came to her head 'And what are you doing here?

'I should ask you the same question, anyways, I am a friend to one of the speakers and he invited me, the invite came late and that's why I didn't invite you. Who did you come with? Samuel asked knowing well that Ara couldn't be there alone.

'A friend invited me, he is one of the volunteers, he should be here anytime soon' Ara had barely finished her statement when she saw Mofe afar off moving his eyes amidst the crowd as though searching for someone, he soon came closer to where Ara was and she was able to call his name.

'I'm really excited you could make it. Ose gan' Mofe said smiling when he finally came closer to her while also looking at the man beside Ara

'I gave you my word na, anyways meet my friend Samuel, we attend the same church, Samuel meet Mofe, he is my friend' Ara did the introduction.

The men shook hands with themselves and asked each other few questions.

Afterwards Samuel left Ara and Mofe to get a seat at the other end of the hall.

'Won't you be going about like the other volunteers? Ara asked when it seem Mofe was not in a haste to leave her side.

'Not at all, I only volunteered to join the decorating team and we are through so I can sit back to enjoy the program'

'You mean you were part of those who decorated this? Ara said pointing at the design on the stage.

Mofe nodded his head in the affirmative.

'It was a skill I learnt on campus. Although I was never part of the unit but I was always joining them'

'Wow' was all Ara could say.

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The following week during service, Ara received a note from an usher indicating that the pastor would want to see  her after the service.

After service, Ara told her parents to go home without her although not stating why she wanted to stay back in church.

On getting to the pastor's office, she  was told to go in by the pastor's secretary.

'Good afternoon Sir' Ara bent a little to greet him.

'Good afternoon Sister Ara' Pastor Gideon said while indicating that she could have her seat.

After the exchange of pleasantries, the pastor got into the reason why she had been summoned.

'Sister Ara, are you engaged? The pastor asked without mincing words.

Ara sat back in her chair stunned, when she had been given the note to see the pastor, a lot of thought had definitely gone through her mind but not her engagement status. She quickly put her wits together to stammer as she said her answer.

'No Sir.'

'And why if I may ask' Pastor Gideon said staring at her.

Ara looked lost, what am I to say now? She asked her herself.

I'm not engaged because I haven't seen light in any man's path yet' She responded in a very low voice.

'I'm sorry if this looks  like a questioning session, why I am asking this question is because a man has indicated interest in you, he is outside waiting for you, I only wanted you to know so that you won't be caught unawares'

'Alright Sir' Ara said not knowing any other thing to say.

The pastor prayed with her and released her.

Ara got out of the pastor's office, she steeped into the auditorium, she saw some member of the organizing band still busy with the arrangement of some instruments while two ladies were moping the altar, she looked at the back of the auditorium and saw  Samuel leaning on a pole, there and then she knew he was the one who had gone to meet the pastor.

Ara decided to go to the gallery  so that all eyes wouldn't be on them When she got to the gallery, Ara chose a corner that was a bit reserved and sat down there.

Few minutes later, according to what Ara had thought, Samuel came to the gallery and came to the corner she was sitting.

He closed his eyes and looked down, for a while Ara thought he wanted to pray.

'Ara, how are you doing? Samuel asked when he finally  raised his head.

'I'm fine, I trust you are fine too.'

Ara could see he was nervous, although it was not very obvious but Ara could clearly see the difference between the Samuel who was her friend and the Samuel who is about proposing to her.

'Ara, I know we've been friends for some  time, but for some time now, you have been coming to my heart and that's why I decided to tell the pastor, although my telling him does not put you under and duress' Samuel said looking at her face.

Ara was glad for the last thing he said, she wouldn't want to be under any pressure from the pastor.

' When did you tell him about me?

'About three months ago' Samuel responded.

Ara  did a mental check, it was around the time she visited her sister.

'Alright, what convinced you that I am the right person? Ara asked.

'Hmmmmmm... I have this assurance in me that you are the one, I have prayed about it too' Samuel said.

'Okay, give me some time to pray about it like you have done' Ara said

'Sure, you have all the time'

'I believe that's all, I would love to be on my way' Ara said and they both stood up.

They both left the church auditorium and although Samuel volunteered to take her home, she declined and opted to sort herself out.

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During the not so busy time at work, Ara pushed back the files on her table and stares into space as she thought about what Samuel had said after service on Sunday  and sighed.

She picked her phone to call the one person who had always been her help when she was not getting clarity on issues.

He answered on the first ring.

'Hello, big brother mi' Ara said smiling.




Next Episode comes up on Saturday.


P.S I apologize for not keeping to my word about putting up a blog post last Saturday.

October 04, 2018 No comments







On Sunday morning, Ara  sat with her mom and dad in the church while on the other side of the sanctuary, a small crowd gathered around Samuel her  music director who had just returned from a two-week leave from work and had traveled out of Lagos to visit his parents.

Through out service that morning, she found that whenever she raised her head towards the choir, she caught Samuel staring at her.

After the service, Ara went forward to say hello to him.

'Ibadan must be really great, I'm sure you have added at least 10 pounds.' Ara said as she sat beside on a chair opposite him.

'Ara has started o, 10 pounds ke. Although I won't be surprised if I did, my mom literally 'killed' me with meals.' Samuel said smiling as he remembered the delicious meals his mother fed him with.

'I'm sure you have at least two coolers at home courtesy of your mom.'

Samuel clapped for her 'Your 'network' is definitely high this morning, she gave me two coolers of soup and even made me promise her that I will always eat home made dinners and not some meals in the restaurant.'

Ara couldn't help but ask. 'And how long will you keep your promise?

'We have a deal for one month' Samuel said as he caught Ara staring at her wrist watch.

'I think that means time up right? Samuel asked.

'Yea, I told my  parents I will be gone for fifteen minutes, and if I don't keep to my words, I wouldn't want to trek home' Ara said as she got up from the chair.

'Thanks for coming to say Hi to me, I really appreciate it'. Samuel said as he got up to.

'And this is what I bought for you' Samuel said as he brought a wrapped gift out of his bag.

'I appreciate this. Thank you' Ara said as they were approaching her parent's car.

After lunch, Ara unwrapped the gift Samuel had bought for her. Ara was surprised to see a gold wist watch and kulikuli.

She decided to call Samuel

'Hiya' Samuel said as he picked on the first ring.

'Hi yourself to. I just saw the gift now, thank you.'

'It's my pleasure. It's time to upgrade your garri deal' He said in a bid to taunt her as he knew  her displeasure for drinking garri.

'Na you sabi, anyways, thank you Sir'

'You are welcome ma' Samuel was able to say before Ara ended the call.

Ara couldn't help but smile as she remembered the first time she had met with Samuel in her church. She had just returned from her obligatory one-year service in Kano and had been a little skeptical about how she would fit into church again after having gone for a year.

That Sunday morning after her family had done thanksgiving for a successful service year, amidst her friends who had come to great her, a man had accompanied them whom she later learned had joined her church while she was away and is now  the music director and bears the name Samuel.

They had exchanged numbers the second time they met in church, and he had been a strong pillar when three months after service she was still unemployeds unemployeds. And little wonder when her appointment letter came, next to her parents, siblings and Bimpe her best friend, he had been the one she called.

It's been three years since then and they been stable friends.

Next episode comes up on Saturday.




September 27, 2018 No comments








'Sesi, the main reason I came here is concerning the lady I told you about' Mofe said

Immediately Sesi switched from his playful mood and gets all serious

'And what about it? Sesi questioned

'We have been steady friends for a while now, and I can say I want to pursue something  more stable with her'

'Hmmmmmm...  Let me give you my own two cent.  Pray to God about it, move a little closer to the lady to see if you share the same faith and if your values align too. Also make sure your heart is opened to God to let him lead you. If there is anything I am confident about, it is that God is not an author of confusion' Sesi counselled his friend.

'You know, this thing is so funny, before it gets to your turn, you give out counsel but when you are involved, all you know suddenly disappears' Mofe voiced out.

'That's true, it sure happens to the best of us too. If indeed God is the one leading you to her, the path will keep getting brighter and brighter, I really don't believe in any friendship or relationship where there is no peace of mind' Sesi said

'Thanks friend, you just helped a brother, I will put all you have said in mind Mr married man' Mofe wink at his friend.

After talking for some minutes.

'I sincerely have to get going, I still have other places to go' Mofe said getting up

'Thanks for insisting that you will not eat in my house, don't even dare persuade me to do otherwise in your house when I come visiting' Sesi said as he escorted Mofe to his car.

'I

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Ara sat on her bed after dinner that night thinking over the events of the week when her phone suddenly vibrated

'Hello Ara' The caller said

'Hiya Mofe'

'How have you been?.

'Fine Fine, and you?

'I'm doing much better than you' Mofe said laughing

'Make sure you don't bet on that' Ara replied back

'Okay o. I want to invite you to a restaurant I just found out. It's called Ibile, and knowing your love for Amala, you might want to consider it' Mofe said

'Hmmmmmm... If it is about my love for Amala, I can always take myself out to eat'.

'Okay, let me confess, it's been a while since I saw your face, the Amala deal is just a side attraction' Mofe said owning up

Ara laughed 'And now that you are sincere, where and when? Ara asked

'Friday after the close of work, I will pick you up from work' Mofe said

'Alright then no problem' Ara replied.

Few minutes to Six on Friday, Ara almost beat herself when Mofe called that he was within the premises of her company and she still had a lot of files to work on.

'I still have some more files to work on, can you give me thirty minutes? Ara asked although wishing she didn't have to ask.

'No problem, I know it's beyond you. Do take your time' Mofe said

Twenty  minutes later, Ara quickly went to the restroom to relieve and refresh herself before finally leaving the office.

'Oh! I'm so sorry I'm late' Ara apologized as she was about to use her seat belt.

'There is no problem, and I was not expecting anything less from someone who works in an organization like yours' Mofe said as he drove out of the car out of the compound.

About thirty minutes later, they were already sitted in the restaurant with Ara andvMofe  sorting themself out with a plate of Amala.

'Mofe couldn't take his eyes off Ara wondering how a plate of Amala could make a lady look this happy, or is it different from what I am eating'  Mofe thought.

As though Ara could read his mind Ara looked up and said with a grateful look 'Lord, thank you for the gift of Amala'

Mofe burst out laughing

'This your love for Amala ehn, I hope they don't kidnap you with a wrap of Amala.

'How did your parent come about your name? Mofe asked initiating a conversation.

'Wow,  what you are asking is actually an information I just got to know about  three years back' Ara said as she dried her hand on the napkin.

'Let me take you down memory lane, my parents from the early years of their marriage decided to give birth to only three children, and within the first five years they had given birth to Oluwanifemi and Oluwadarasimi who are both married but couldn't seem to have their last born.'

Ara stopped and drank some water

'After ten years of waiting, my mom realized she was feeling dizzy and went for check up at the hospital where she works as the matron only for her to discover she was eight weeks pregnant.

The news was received with mixed feelings, the family was happy because a new child was on the way, and sad because  of the complications that might be involved because she was around  fourty years then'

'According to what I was told, the pregnancy was hitch free, but the delivery day was ....' Ara couldn't get the right words to describe it.

'On that fateful day, my dad  came back from work unusually early and my siblings were spending the weekend with our maternal grandmother, they were eating a nice meal of pounded yam which my mother had pounded when she came back from work, they were almost through with the meal when my mother noticed some movement in her stomach. My father quickly went out to inform the neighbor who had a car because they didn't have a car by then' Ara stopped when a fat woman entered, she couldn't take her eyes off the woman until she ordered her meal and sat down.

She continued 'when they got to the hospital where she works, she was quickly rushed into the labour room to be attended to, but after five hours, they had no choice but to transfer her to another hospital where they were told that she would have to go under the knife'.

'Immediately they were told, my father started crying, and mind you, CS is not what it is now, asides the huge sum of  money involved, it was not guaranteed that both mother and child will survive. My dad agreed to sign the papers with tears running down his eyes, after then he was given a list of what to go and buy, but as God would have it before he came back, I had decided to come out'.

'It was not a surprise when on the day I was to be named, 'Oluwashindara' was called as one of my names which means 'God still does wonders. That is the end of my story' Ara said smiling.

'It's indeed a story' Mofe replied

They talked some more before they decided to call it a day. Mofe took her to a place where she could easily get a cab to her house. She called back as she was about entering her apartment that she got home well and also appreciates him for the wonderful meal.

Next episode comes up next week Thursday...

September 22, 2018 No comments






Ara woke up feeling refreshed, she looked at her surroundings wondering where she is, and all of a sudden she remembered all yesterday's event that she is in her sister's house.

 She woke up late due to the fact that she couldn't drop the book she was reading until she was through. She  did her devotion in her room because she was sure her sister's family would have done theirs.

She decided to have her bath before going downstairs, after about 20 minutes she took her phone in hand and opened the door of her room, while on the staircase, she remembered that Mofe said he was going to chat her up, she switched on her data but there was no message from him.

 'Ara, is this the time you still wake up at home? Dara questioned her sister.

'Of course not, I slept very late and you know I need to rest after yesterday's journey. Anyways, Sis I am hungry, what did you cook' Ara said as she sat down on a two-seater's chair.

'Cook? We are waiting for aunty Ara to wake up and cook for us' Dara sDara said with all seriousness.

'I know you are only joking' Ara said getting up from the chair and going into the kitchen herself.

Ara soon came out with a tray containing a plate of moimoi and a cup of garri alongside a bottle of water.

'I knew you were only teasing me. Sis, this food is delicious o, I don't have to wonder why uncle dayo is getting fat'.

'I will tell him you said that'

'Where is everyone? Ara asked noticing the silence in the house.

'Today is the day the children are supposed to have a date with their dad. He does not want anyone luring them with the things he couldn't give them in the future, so he is giving them all the love and attention now. He comes back home late most nights, so that's his way of making up.

'At least two Saturdays a month, they go out for their date, and I really love that arrangement because it gives me enough time to arrange the house and also relax.

'I love that o' Ara said as she continued with her food.

Oluwasindara' Dara called her sister

'Wow, it's been a while anyone called my name  in full. Ma'

'How about marriage, aren't you planing on settling down? Dara asked with concern all over her face.

'I want to Sis, it's just that from those who have come, I didn't see light in their path'

'Are you praying at all' Dara wanted to know

'Yes I am, there are times when I get worried too, but I have decided not to get on the fast track, so that I would not outrun God' Ara responded before drinking the water on the tray

'Do take your time dear, don't let anyone rush you into it, I would not tell you to forget the fact that people seems to be tying the knots every weekend, but what I will tell you is, don't get desperate and don't let anyone pressurize you. It's for life o, and although mum means well, don't let her rush you into it, remember she won't go there with you' Dara advised her sister.

'Mo ti gbo, I will put all you have said in mind' Ara said as she got up with her plates in hand to the kitchen.


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Mofe got down from  his car on his way to visit his friend Sesi and decoded to buy something for his wife. His friend got married early in the year and were already expecting their first child. On his way out of the mall,  Mofe decided to call his friend that he would soon be at his place.

Sesi picked his call on the second ring.

'Hello Mr man, I will soon be at your place, please inform your gateman'

'Okay, I will do that, and don't forget to bring what you will eat' Sesi said jokingly.

'Don't worry about that, if you don't have food in your house, there are restaurants around, and I remember there is one called 'Ibile' where all kinds of traditional food are sold. I even trust your wife, she wouldn't allow her husband's bestman starve in her house' Mofe said as he dropped the gifts on the passengers seat.

Sesi laughed hard where he was 'Okay uncle bestman, drive carefully'

'Like you care' Mofe wouldn't let his friend have the final word.

30 minutes after the call, Mofe drove into Sesi's compound as the gateman saluted him. As he was about knocking on his friend's door, Sesi opens the door, they exchange peasantries and get into the flat.

'Mr husband, how are you doing? Mofe asked his friend as they shook hands with each other.

'I'm doing fine o' Sesi said smiling

'I don't need to be told, it's obvious from your appearance and smile'

Just then Stella, Sesi's wife who was about five months pregnant came out of the bedroom, she greeted Mofe warmly and was about going out when Mofe quickly went to his car to bring the gift he bought for her.

'This is not fair, where is mine? Sesi said

'No gift for you sir' was Mofe's response

Stella soon left the two men alone as she left the house. After her depature, Mofe got into the business of what he had come to tell his friend...


Next episode comes up on Saturday.


September 20, 2018 No comments







It was time for lunch, Ara decided to go out to shop for some gift items for her sister's children Sumbo and Daniel within the half hour break.

As she was trekking to the closest market to her office, she suddenly saw a car park beside her, on a closer look, she recognize him as the man who had been to her office  some weeks back.

'Good afternoon Sir' Ara greeted the man as he came out of his car.

'Good afternoon ma, I hope you remember my face' Mofe said as they shook hands.

'Yes' Ara replied smiling, her good mood must be robbing off on the man as he smiled back.

'I am going towards (he mentioned the route), are you heading in that direction too? Mofe asked

'I am going to the market on that road'

'Okay, please get in, let me give you a ride' Mofe said opening the door for her.

'I appreciate the gesture, but I wouldn't want to bother you, thanks but no thanks'

'Oh please, it wouldn't be a bother. I insist'.

'Okay, thank you' Ara said as she steeped into the car.

Minutes later, they were sitted already talking about her work and how stressful and demanding it is.

'My name is Mofe, what's yours? The man looked at her.

'I am Ara'

'And why are you going to the market this afternoon' Mofe asked because he couldn't place why a person who works in that organization would be looking for in the market under the sun.

'I am visiting my elder sister's family I need to get some things for her children' Ara said as she pointed at the junction where she would alight.

She appreciated Mofe for the ride as she was stepping out.

'Oh! I won't forgive myself if I make this mistake, can I have your number? Mofe asked smiling.

Ara looked at him and felt there was no harm giving him her digits.

'0 8 0 2 . . .' She dictated to him.

Ara soon got busy going from one shop to the other looking for the perfect gift. She settled for a Black shoe for Dayo her sister's husband, a  blue gown for her sister, and a wristwatch each for her sister's children.

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Mofe got back to his office, and got busy with the different files the secretary has placed on his desk. After working for some hours, he thought about calling the lady whose contact he had collected during the day but soon thought against it since the lady may be busy at work. He made a mental note to call her later in the night.

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'Ara, this is so delicious, you have seriously improved on your culinary skills o' Dara said to her sister after dinner.

'She sure deserves a round of applause for that wonderful meal' Dayo said supporting his wife

'Both of you should keep teasing me' Ara answered them as she was coming out of the kitchen.

'Bo omo eni ba da ka wi' Dara said in her mother's tongue loosely translated as if one's child is good, then let's speak out.

She sat down with them and soon they started talking. They had talked for about twenty-five minutes when Dara suddenly realized that her children were not in the sitting room.

'Where are the children, it seems they just disappeared immediately
after dinner' Ara said to no one in particular.

'I was just thinking about that. They should be in their room playing' Dara replied.

'Playing.... Then my phone may be  what is being played with' Ara said as she got up from the chair

'I'm coming, let me quickly collect my phone from them. I might have missed some calls'.

On getting to the children's room, Ara discovered that she had missed three calls from a number that was not on her phone. Her only guess was the man she had given her number.

'Sumbo, why didn't you bring my phone when it was ringing?"She asked the little girl with a frown on her face.

       "We are sorry aunty,its just that the game is so interesting" sumbo had an innocent look on her face.

        Ara couldn't stay angry for too long,she had to smile to assure the children that all is okay.she sent a message to the number that she was now in custody  of her phone.she went back downstairs to inform her sister and her husband that she wanted to retreat for the night.

       "Okay,come let's pray before you go to your room". Dara said.

         Then she called out to her children to come down for prayers. After the night prayers, Ara said goodnight to her family and went to her room.

      When she was through with unpacking her luggage ,she went to the bathroom to refresh herself, she came out and checked her phone but didn't miss any call except a text from her music director whom she had informed about her travelling .he wanted to know  about her journey and total welling, she sent a text thanking him for his concern and also asked about his wellbeing.

    She knelt beside her bed and said her prayer ,thank God for his mercies. When she was through ,she picked her phone again but there was no calls.She picked a book she had been reading for the past five days written by Serita Ann Jakes:The Princess within and soon got busy devouring the pages.

She had read about three pages of the book when her phone rang, she checked the caller ID and saw that it was an unregistered number.

  "Hello,good evening, Ara on the line, who is this?

   'Hmmmm,this is the person you give your number to earlier today,"

    "Oh,I remember, this is the man who collected my number but hasn't told me anything about him' Ara said smiling.
 
"Oh! That's true......hmmm,this is Eyimofe Oluwole ,the only child of Mr&mrs Oluwole,I work for EGOC,I attend Royal chapel and by his Grace,I head the youth ministry there ,I have a first degree in Economics,and I have done some other courses too,I am dark in complexion,I have 32 sparkling White teeth with an open tooth,....is the introduction okay or should I continue?Mofe asked with all seriousness.

    " Not at all,I feel like I know all about you in less than two minutes, I guess that introduction will do for now",Ara said in between laughter.

   "So glad I could make you laugh... How you doing?'

  "I am doing good, like I told you earlier in the day, I'm presently at my sister's place to spend the weekend with her family'.

"And where is that?  Mofe asked

 She told him the location

"I think I have been there once,a friend of mine lives not too far from there" Mofe said.

   "I called to hear your voice and to be sure you arrived at your sister's place safely".

    "That is so thoughtful of you. I appreciate that" Ara said as she turned over on the bed.
   'I have to go'

    "Do have a lovely night rest miss Ara'"

  "And do the same Mr Mofe".
 
As Mofe was about ending the call,he remembered something
   " miss Ara,are you still there "
    "Yes I'm here"
     "Permission to chat you up
      " Granted sir
       "Thanks and good night " Mofe said and ended the call.

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Mofe couldn't help smiling when he ended the call with Ara, she  was indeed a lovely lady, he wouldn't mind being friends with some one like her, he only hoped that he would still be able to keep  his past in the past while he moves ahead with his life.

He kept rolling on the bed as sleep eluded him, he picked up his wweak body to the kitchen to make a cup of coffee for himself, thinking that would help him relax.

At about 3:30am, he woke up from his sleep sweating and panting like one who had been involved in a marathon race, what happened 7 years back looked so real. How could he even think of pursuing a relationship with any lady while Elizabeth is where she is because of his self-centeredness.

He was so disturbed that he had no choice than to pull himself up from the bed and went into the sitting room knowing fully well that he wouldn't be able to get any sleep till the dawn of the day.

He wish there was someone he could explain himself to, he couldn't probably tell his pastor,and he couldn't explain himself to his friend Sesi, he hope he will be able to go out to church in the evening to do his duties as a helping hand in the organizing band; a band which organizes the church in preparation for sunday service.

He is not felling hungry, and the only thing he can do is to tell God about his
Problem the one who knows all about him and has forgiven him, the one who had been his only succor ever since that unforgettable night.

He bent his knees to pray and he knew deep down in his heart that it will be a long time before he stood up from there.

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The next episode comes up next week Thursday.
September 15, 2018 No comments






'Ara, you have to calm down, the man we are talking about is your boss and you need God's wisdom in handling this issue. I wish I was there in Nigeria with you, but we both know I still have four months to stay in this place' Bimpe said to calm her friend.

'Girlfriend, I really wish you were here too, I will take things easy like you advised' Ara said and yawned.

'Oh! I was supposed to ask you how the training went today, and here I am boring you with my issues'. Ara said with smile in her voice.

'You know you couldn't bore me even if you tried, anyways, training was good and I am seriously enjoying myself' Bimpe said laughing.

'Alright, sister America, but keep in mind that we are missing you here o' Ara said as she got water from the water dispenser in her office.

They talked for about 10 minutes before ending the call.

Ara sat back in her office thinking back on how she had met Bimpe, they had both been fresh students in the university when their path had crossed in the school cafeteria when their path had crossed, they had clicked almost immediately and they have remained best of friends even after their university degree.


Although Ara had thought that Bimpe engagement to Kunle would have made their friendship go into oblivion, but her fears were calmed when after one year of Bimpe's engagement, they were still best of friends.

A knock on the door brought her out of her thought

'Yes, come in' Ara said as she tidied her desk.

'Good afternoon ma, I was directed to come to you by one of the attendants. I came here to buy some items last week and I used the POS, only for me to receive a debit alert that was more than what I purchased. I went to my bank and I was told to come here' The man said in one breath.

'Oh! We apologize sir' Ara said as she got busy with the laptop on her desk, she checked for the goods he bought from the store and how much was deducted.

After punching on more keys, she was able to reverse the transaction.

'I just rectified the problem now, you will get an alert soon. We sincerely apologize for any inconvince ' Ara said smiling

'Thank you ma, I really appreciate this. To be factual, I was not expecting it to be this fast, once again, thank you ma' The man said as he stood up from the chair.

'It's my pleasure sir, and once again, we apologize for any inconvince' Ara said as they shook hands.

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'Ara, are you still going to Dara's place for the weekend' Mrs Adepoju asked her daughter as she packed the plates used for dinner to the kitchen.

'Yes mum, I told you earlier this week that I will be going, the deal still stands' Ara replied as she came out of the kitchen.

'I was only asking so that I would know how to plan my weekend' Her mom replied.

'Just tell me you are missing me already' She wrapped her hands around her mother.

Mrs Adepoju shook her head 'not at all, I'm only happy I will have my husband to myself' Her mom replied smiling as she looked at her husband with the corner of her eyes.

'I know daddy will miss me' Ara said leaving her mother's side to join her father who was sitting on the opposite chair.

'Of course I will miss you my precious daughter, ensure you take good care of yourself for us' Ara lied on her father's leg smiling but not before giving  her mom a look that says 'at least someone will miss me.

The next day at work, Ara was full of smiles as she interacted with other members of the staff.

She couldn't believe she was this excited about going to her sister's house, a lady with whom she was always at logger heads with because to Ara, her sister didn't want her to enjoy life and have fun.

One event stands out among other events, she had just gained admission into the university then and her elder brother Nifemi was about getting married.

Their parents had gone out leaving her and her sister who arrived early from work that day. Ara had started throwing tantrums when she came back home without meeting food.

Her sister had tried pacifying her, and at some point, her sister lost her temper, locked her in the room they both shared and had given her the beating of her life.

 The memory of that day alone was enough to silence any other spirit she had. Looking back, she was grateful for all her sister had done.

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Next episode comes up on Saturday


September 13, 2018 No comments








‘I am definitely coming to your house to take this suit’ Peter said to his friend

‘keep teasing me, we both know you have more lovely suits than this’ Bayonle replied his friend as they got into the restaurant to catch up on each other’s lives.

A waitress comes to take their orders as Bayonle orders a plate of ofada rice while Peter orders for Eba.The waitress soon comes with their meal and Bayonle bows his head to bless the meal.

‘You are indeed a good son of your mother for you to be praying over meals in public’ Peter said teasing his friend.

Bayonle shook his head at him, ‘I know I am a good son, even gooder than you’ Bayonle said using his hands to indicate an unseen quotation mark for his wrong use of English.

Peter raised up his hands ‘I give up’

‘You can’t believe that lady is still on my case’ Bayo said changing the topic.

‘what lady is that?’

‘Joy, the lady in the choir that works not too far from my office’ Bayonle said describing her.

Oh! What pattern did she use this time around?

'She stopped by my office during the week with the claim that she wanted to say 'Hi' to me, you can imagine how surprised I was when the receptionst called to say I had a visitor.

Bayo drank some juice and continued

'She brought a shirt which she insisted I accept as it was a seed she wanted to sow into my life' 

'My goodness! Was that not the lady who bought a brown shoe and belt to mark your birthday last two months? Peter asked laughing at his friend.

'Yes o. And as though that was not enough, she came to church today with a leather wristwatch for me which she claimed was another seed she wanted to sow' Bayo finished his story shaking his head at the events.

'I really can't believe this, you mean she did all that? Peter asked although not expecting an answer.

'These ladies should understand that there is nothing charming when they are the ones doing the finding na' Peter said while still trying to come in terms with the information  his friend just told him.

'I mean, the friendship/relationship should have gotten to a certain level before she can start sowing seeds into your life' Peter said as he took another morsel of eba.

'Exactly my take, if Sola were to buy five shirts for me in a week, I wouldn't raise an eyebrow because she is my tested and trusted friend for years, but here is a lady whom I now little or nothing about, we are not even friends by my definition already buying all sort of gifts for me' Bayonle paused to sip his drink.

'If I were someone else, I would have played along with her only to show up with my invitation card, and that will have been very disastrous for her. People like her are those who go around telling the world that the man collected gifts from her even though he knew he wouldn't marry her' Bayo continued with his food.

'We need to do more for these ladies before they get their heart shattered, they are already in a vulnerable position, they shouldn't make theirselves more vulnerable than necessary' Bayo said as he washed his hands and dried it with a napkin.

Have a lovely weekend fam...

September 08, 2018 No comments






I attended a ladies camp meeting some months back, and one of the facilitators made a statement about the fact that 'singleness is tough' to which I would love to add my thought.

It is a very critical stage of our lives as singles, but then there are times when it no longer feels interesting,  especially when all your friends are getting married almost every month and you are the one going about from one state to the other prostrating alongside your friends to bring the bride home.

 Almost all your covenant sisters seem to be getting it right and you are saddled with the glorious responsibility of organizing the wedding while still doubling as the maid of honor.

‘Bimbo I have to go, my husband is calling me. Take care of yourself girlfriend.’ Your friend Funmi tells you over the phone before you say goodnight. You stare at your phone and wonder when it will be your turn to also call someone My husband.

But,

Don’t allow the seemingly tough situations of thesev days drive you to a place where God wouldn’t be, or into the arms of an enemy disguised as friends. 

I know it is easier said but when faced with all those increasing weather for two, you just wish you can throw all caution to the wind and grab the next available man/woman.

You have been waiting for so long, please wait a little longer a pe ko to je ko ni je baje, keep trusing He who has promised, don’t do what you wouldn’t be able to tell God.

There were days when I wished I could say yes to a any proposal I got just so I could also be ‘enganged’, even when I knew deep down in my heart that this is not IT, on days like this, I remind myself of the fact that my life is not just about me and I can’t afford to damage so many lives attached to my life because of the now.

Singleness is interesting with the many previledges it affords, but singleness is tough and we have been made for such a time as this.

Being married and being single are tough. Both stages of life has both its advantages and disadvantages. While still single, there are some things you can do now without a second thought, but will require days if not weeks of planing as a married individual.

Go for that course.
Attend that seminar.
Get certified in your area of calling.
Acquire that skill.
Do what makes your heart pant.

In that sister’s voice,

If it is not from God, then I don’t want it.
If God doesn’t give me, then I don’t need it.

It might mean crying, it might involve a lot of headache and heartache, but know that heaven will appreciate it.
Don’t make a mistake that will be costly to the kingdom.

Enjoy this time before those triplets come.

Also Read  Dear Single Lady
September 06, 2018 No comments




We appreciate the fact that you are doing everything possible, to make sure the wife you will spend the rest of your life with spends it in affluence, and that the children will be well taken care of and have the best of things.

We appreciate the fact that you are trying your best to know how to be romantic, how to be able to decipher our moods accurately and how to love us the way we should be loved.

We appreciate your every move to ease our pain and be the shoulder we can lean on at all times.

We appreciate that you are learning to be domesticated; by learning how to cook delicious meals, take care of the house, wash clothes and plates so that we don't look 50 when we are 32.

We appreciate that you are paying regular visits to the gym so that you can carry us on our big day.

But,

There will be days when your sweet musings will mean almost nothing against what's going on in our head.

There will be days when you might not be able to protect us with your physical muscles though you are present.

There will be days when the arms of flesh will fail.

And,

It is for these days that we desire you seek for Him who holds us when your arms although present will be far.

It is for these days we desire that you have a communion with him, and although your relationship with him should not be because of us but because you love Him.

It is because of days like this that we desire that you know God.

I remember at a point in my life, a friend of mine hurt me very deeply and I was finding it hard to forgive (although I have talked so much about forgiveness prior to that time but when it came staring at me in the eye, it was extremely difficult to do). Whenever I wanted to pray, I was always feeling as though someone was talking to God about me.

Imagine you have a misunderstanding with your wife and she wouldn't listen to you, and then you table the matter to her Father, and the beauty comes when she can hear too.

In all you chase, chase God.
There will be a place in her heart that only God can fill, which you Will never be able to, no matter how hard you try.

It will be very romantic for her to wake up and see you praying for her. You don't have to be a pastor in church but you will have to be a priest in the home.


In all your getting, get God.


August 31, 2018 No comments

August 30, 2018 No comments
Some of us, because of the things we have gone through in life: the hurt, disappointment, the so many unpleasant situations of life might want to doubt the love of God sometimes.

There are situations beyond our control that makes us think that God does not care about us.

But,

God does cares about you.

He has his mind full of you.

Where was he when my father abandoned my mother for another woman at age 4?

Where was he when I had to drop out of university at 300 level when there was no fund to go on?

Where was he when my uncle started molesting me at age 5?

Where was he when I became 30 in my father's house?

Where was he when my mother who was the breadwinner of the family died the year I gained admission?

.... And the list goes on.

Irrespective of all, he loves and cares about you.

It might not all make sense now, you might not understand why all that had to happen, but it did happened.
He is one who sticks closer than a brother.

He loves you.

He cares about
Believe it
God really cares about you
He is one who is committed to you and your welfare than anyone on earth.
He is concerned about your welfare.

He does cares.

August 18, 2018 No comments




              

While it is a good thing to be engaged and flaunt the ring on everyone's face, can you categorically say that you have fully maximized your  single hood before joining the highly exalted marriage hood.

I have some times seen people in a rush just to get out of been single get hooked to any man/woman who looks like what they want for the present.

It's actually funny that this same set of people will never have gone past the stage of exchanging of pleasantries, much more get engaged to that man/woman only if they haven't been in such a rush.

Have you ever been so thirsty that you just took the closest sachet water to you and started drinking it, and you were already half way through before you realized that the sachet was smelling. If you weren't in such a rush from the very beginning, you would have detected the awful smell the minute you picket the sachet water up.

So also is it with other aspects of our life, almost anything that comes in a state of desperation almost doesn't end well.

I know pressure comes almost daily, weekly or even monthly for you. I know how embarrassing it can be sometimes.

I attended my church camp last week and it was funny how my friends and egbons couldn't talk to me for five minutes with talking about it.

The pressure from all quarters is high, we know.

But, as we need a clear mind to make right decisions in life, so also do we need a clear mind to make the right choice concerning marriage too.

See, your marriage is going to eventually happen, but by then, your singleness will be gone and irretrievable.

Things gotten out of desperation are usually not IT.

Remember
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No one can shine your shine.


August 16, 2018 No comments

In my really little stay on earth (I  haven't spent much time here o) if there is any word that is next being 'pure', then virginity comes to mind.

But,

Virginity is not the same as being sexually pure.

Yes, virginity is good, but there is more to life than an unbroken hymen or not sleeping with a lady until the wedding night. There are some female virgins who have done all the 'doables' from kissing, romancing, and all you can think of. Their only reason they claim to be a virgin is because they have guarded against a man fully penetrating into them.

While virginity is worth treasuring, but there is really more to being sexually pure than that alone.

For the person who is still a 'virgin', I would like to ask you this questions

Why Are You A Virgin?

Yes, you have to fully understand why you are keeping yourself.

Are You Pure In Thoughts?

There are some virgins whom if what goes on in their mind can be projected for people to see,everyone will take cover.

While it is good no man sleeps with me, haven't I slept with them in my heart?

I remember when I was in the university, my fellowship president would say 'if you look at a lady/man once, it's normal, if you look a second time, you are appreciating the person, if you look a third time, it's time to watch it (quote paraphrased).

Are You Pure In Action?

There are some brothers that can hold you until you begin to wonder what is wrong, they can stare so much at your shirt until you begin to wonder if a button is out of place.

As a male who wants to be sexually pure, there are some places in a woman's body that you have no need touching accidentally not to talk of deliberately.

There are times when in your heart of heart, you might not see anything wrong, but you could be causing trouble for the lady.

Aunty, we know your love language is physical touch, but please, try and suppress it for now, all this laughing and falling on brothers won't help the ministry o.

I agree there are days when we feel like throwing caution to the wind and give in to our desires, but our lives is beyond us.

Being sexually pure is hard work but remember we can do all things through Christ who gives us strength.


August 13, 2018 No comments




Can there ever be a blessing when God says no on a particular issue? 

Have you ever prayed, fasted, sowed seeds, honoured men of God, and did all you could and it still seems the answer is no? 

You might have been in these situations, or you might be going through one, and yours might still be on the way (Yes, it will come). 

I want to remind you that God is a very good father irrespective of what we may have in mind when we are going through trying times, but as a good father that he is, there are times he must deny requests that would insult the greater destiny he has prepared for those who are his (of which we are one). 

As spritual and sensitive as we are, there are still some things that are hidden from us, which only God, who sees the past and future in a glance knows.

 There are different phases of our life that we haven't begun to operate in, but God already sees that and hence, the essence for his saying No. 

Often times as his children, we sometimes want to make choices based on our present circumstances or situations. It might be a choice of the state to reside in, choice of house to stay, choice of whom to be friends with, choice of company to work in, or even the choice of who to marry.

 It is so possible that, left to mankind and as short-sighted as we are, we might settle down for what is only good for the now, but which might be toxic for the future, and hence God saying No. 

There are times when what is coming might actually seem good, but, either the timing is wrong or from God's position, he can see that the future is bleak. 

He says No for our sake. 

Most times, we term open doors as being from God and closed doors as being from the enemy, but it is significant to understand that the shut door is just as much a move of God as the open door. 

If the door is just closed by the enemy, and he is trying to get us to give up on your dream, prayer and praise will unlock it, all we have to do is to tarry there. 

But, 

If the door is closed by a sovereign decision of an all-wise God, and prayer and praise does not open it, then we  must accept his decision. 

Remember, He Says No For Our Sake. 

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July 02, 2018 No comments







Few months back, I updated a prayer on my WhatsApp status which says

"Lord, help me never to despise or oppose what I do not understand"

As at then, I really didn't get the full understanding of that prayer until recently when I was studying the book of Galatians.

My main emphasis will be on Gal 2:7-9

'In fact, when Peter, James, and John, who were known as the pillars of the church, saw how greatly God had used me in winning the Gentiles, just as Peter had been blessed so greatly in his preaching to the Jews—for the same God gave us each our special gifts—they shook hands with Barnabas and me and encouraged us to keep right on with our preaching to the Gentiles while they continued their work with the Jew.'


Here are some of the lessons I learnt.


1. Paul acknowledged the fact that although Peter was preaching to the Jews, which was an assignment quite different from his which was basically to the gentiles, he still went ahead to affirm that it was from God and he gives gifts liberally to everyone even if they are not the same. 

2. He recognized the dimension that he was sent to the gentiles while Peter was sent to the Jews.

3. It could have been way below him if he had expected Peter to do his assignment like he was doing his since the master did not send them to the same set of people. 

4. And since their assignments differ, their methods and techniques will be different. Although everything still centres on God. 

As we about in our journey in life, may God help us see Him in people and assignment quite different from ours. 

Have a wonderful week friends. 

#Beam





July 02, 2018 No comments






You mean you were expecting me to pray about Dare? I asked my friend Ara with a deadly look on my face

'Funmi, we both know that is what is expected of a sister who receives a marriage proposal from a man' Ara replied me with a tone that defied my glare.

'But, you know how much of a busy woman I am, I cann't waste my precious time in prayer over that kind of man Biko' Ara continued while buttressing her point.

'And what do you mean by that kind of man? I asked stressing the word 'that kind of man'

'He is not tush, he doesn't know how to dress, he is not smart, he commits blunder when he speaks english, he does not know how to combine colours, he is not even funny. Wo, Ore, the list is endless jare' Ara said as she got up from the bed on her way to the kitchen.

I couldn't help but shake my head as my friend of three years uttered those words.

'But all what you have stated are minor things o, I need some major reasons why you didn't even bother to pray about him' Funmi said as her friend returned to the room carrying a tray containing cake and a bottle of water.

'You call all those things minor? Ah! What are the list of the major things by your own standard then? Ara asked as she handed over a slice of cake to her friend before joining her on the bed.

'Okay, but you will have to answer my questions o. Is he born again? Funmi asked in between bites.

'Yes, he is born again' Ara answered wondering where all the questions was going to lead to.

'Does he love God?

'Of a truth, for the period of time we have been friends, I can boldly say that he loves the lord, and his love for God is even contagious sef' Ara replied her friend while cutting a slice of cake.

'Do his core values align with the word of God?

'Hmmmmmmmm. In all sincerity, his goals are deeply rooted in God's word. All he talks about is that after his departure from earth, people will say that they saw Jesus in Dare. Let me say it in his words 'I want them to say, because Dare lived, we caught a glimpse of Jesus' Ara said smiling as she remembered the way Dare's face glows whenever he made that declaration.

Is he a man of consistent character, can you say he is word-bound?

'Yea Yea. He keeps to his words o. If he tells me he will call me by 12 in the afternoon and doesn't call by then, just know something is wrong. He sure keeps to his words' Ara answered still wondering what her friend is trying to achieve.

'And I still don't get where you are going with all these your questions o' She voiced her concerns.

'Can he become tush? Funmi asked evading her questions.

'Yes, anyone can become tush if they work at it na'

'Can he learn how to combine colours and dress well?

'Anybody can learn how to combine colours and dress well. I also learnt it myself' Ara replied finally coming to the understanding of what her friend was saying.

Can he speak 'good' english? Funmi asked her friend

'Of course, with the right resources he can become a pro at speaking good english if there is anything like 'good english'. Ara replied smiling.

'So you see that you have placed more priority on the minor while deliberately ignoring the major' Funmi said to her friend.

'Hmmmmmmmmmmmm' That was all Ara could say.

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It is becoming more alarming the way some ladies are putting more priority on what should take the least priority. They are more concerned about the things that can be changed with time as opposed to those that Only intervention from above can change.

While there are some are some features that can not be undone for example tribal marks, there are still others that can be worked upon. That a young man can not speak good english today does not mean he can not be taught.

There are some men that can't seem to wear their size of suit today, that does not automatically mean it will continue like that. I was going through our family album recently and I saw a picture of my dad around twelve years back wearing a SUIT (you know that kind of suit that looks like agbada, that was what he was wearing), but if you see him today....

Conclusively, before you write that man off, make sure it is really from God and not because of your misplaced piority.




June 21, 2018 No comments








We Don't Want To Have Sex, What Can We Do?

Although there have been a lot of uproar about being in a relationship that is not sexual, it is becoming almost difficult to be in a relationship where you are not supposed to have sex, and it's even more difficult especially for people who have been sexually active but have decided to stay pure.

After having set up the boundaries aside from the regular talk like:

'I want to keep myself for my husband for my wedding night'
'I don't want to get pregnant'
'My mentor will not be happy if he hears'

There has to be principles that can guide you and that can stand the test of time.

After establishing the principles and standing by the word being sexually pure, what are those things you can do in your courtship that can enhance bonding without sex.

1. Pursue God

When I talk about pursuing God, this means that both of you should be all sold out to God and His purpose. You could pick a particular character in the Bible and do an indepth study of the person while you both come together and do a review.
You can also pick a day in the week to pray for your family and all that surrounds it.
You can also volunteer for some outreach in your locality and do the best you can.
You also need to be as transparent with each other as possible so that you can fight any battle that needs to be fought now.

2. Make plans

While it might not be possible to have everything figured out, but it is possible to have an aspect figured out. The time of courtship is not just a time to look into each other eyes while saying sweet musings, it is a time to make concrete plans as regards the future.


3. Talk

After the euphoria of engagement is gone, the period of courtship is a time to talk about things.
These are the things you might decide to talk about:

How many children will we have?

What kind of house would we live in (a bungalow, flat, duplex)?

Do you believe in discipling children, and who will be responsible for the discipline?

Will I have the liberty of pursing my career when we start giving birth (For the female).

What are your expectations as regards sharing of house chores (For male)?

Are we going to have a joint account?

Will any family relation live with us and for how long?

Is there any offence that I may commit that you can never forgive?

And the list goes on....

Just keep talking.

4. Socialize

I have come across both brothers and sisters who still think that there is nothing exciting about getting engaged to a Christian, although they might not be fully blamed because they feel it will be soo boring. I wouldn't blame them much especially since our brothers often look like those whose fashion designers had a degree in farming and the skirt of the sisters can sew a complete Iro and buba (Smiles). While Christian courtship isn't supposed to be about sex, there are some activities you can still indulge in and still have fun. They include but not limited to:

* You can decide to have a group date (it can be between your friend and his fiancee and your fiancee)

* You can go to the cinema on a weekend if you both reside in the same town.

* You can visit a tourist attraction together (Olumo rock is a place to be, I haven't been there but planing towards it).

* You can visit the home of an elderly couple to see the way things are being done there.

The list is definitely endless...

For my friends  who are  in a relationship and are abstaining, I doff my hat for you.

And for everyone engaged or not who has chosen the path of sexual purity, it pays...





June 20, 2018 No comments




                   


I Love My Dad, But......


For the ladies like me who have fathers who love them and would do anything for them, we might get tempted to feel that our husband must also continue from where our father stopped.

I for one have a very very very very very very very loving father, this is a man who I felt no matter the trouble or situation I got in, I believed that he could settle it.

Let me give you some examples

I remember in my university days, my twin sis and I attended the same university, and there are days when we have to cook and because we didn't discuss it before we departed, and I don't have sufficient airtime, guess what I would do?

 I wouldn't credit my phone nor wait till I was going home to buy the ingredients...

 I would call my father and plead with him to call my sister to tell her to buy ingredients and cook (you can imagine the miles apart), and he will do just that.

I can't remember ever buying call card for more than three times in the university (you can guess who makes sure my phone is loaded).

Imagine me bringing this kind of mindset into marriage (Always expecting my husband to credit my phone at ALL times, and always ready to put a call across without looking for solutions around me).

I agree that your challenges should OUR challenges,   but remember you are supposed to be a helpmeet and not another problem to be solved.

There are some expectations from fathers to daughters and there are some from husband to wives, all of which are different from themselves.

You will always be a baby to your father, but you and your husband are two adults who will be expected to take decision that will affect not just your life but that of the children too.

Although nothing is wrong with you expecting to be pampered by your husband, but be realistic with it.

There are a lot of ladies already setting themselves up for tears later on in life because of the mindset they harbour today.

Don't let your husband begin to feel that he is competing with your father.

Your father is your father ( like my father will always be my father).

Your husband is your husband.

#Beam


June 12, 2018 No comments




Can we say this prayer together,

"Lord, until you are finished

processing me, please don’t send

anyone my way.

What is Beam saying again?

Have you ever had to eat a meal that was half cooked, probably because the cook doesn't know how to cook or because Nepa took light and you were using electric cooker (Yea Yea, i know the feeling).

Have you ever had to eat a fruit that was not ripe on the inside but only good on the outside?

While the outcome of those situations were not palatable, now imagine if it were a human being. We have so many people who are half baked, who only look good on the outside but can be toxic if consumed.

It is an established fact that we are in a jet age where everything must be done fast, but there are still some processes that we must go through if we want to be correct individuals.

While some people are miracles on two legs, others are accident going somewhere to happen.

One of the reasons why you are not engaged/married yet might be that God is still doing some things in your life that will make you better prepared for who He is sending your way.

There are some assignments that requires deep work, while some might not necessarily be as deep. Only God knows what he is calling you to be, you are not involved in a competition with anyone.

If you are becoming too desperate to get married, it is most likely that you are liable to choose wrong. Have you ever had to eat a meal when you were so famished, it is most likely you just ate in a rush, and it was only after you have gulped down half of the meal did you realise that the plate was dirty and wouldn't have ate with it if you were not so hungry.

Things gotten In a rush most times are usually beneath things that are chosen under calm situations.

Don't jump out of process.

Develop all the strength you need now, for you are going to need it.

If you are tempted by all the white dresses and diamond ring, buy a white dress for yourself and a ring, then wear it to the next concert your church organises (Smikes). There is more to marriage than a white gown, flowers and gits.

If you are tempted by all the black suit and 'agbada' you see, buy a black suit and white shirt, then wear it to the next diner night your company organises.

So, can we say the prayer again

“Lord, until you are finished

processing me, please don’t send

anyone my way.

Be careful what you ask for, because you will get it.

But no need to worry...

It will yield tremendous result.

Did you find this post impactfull?

I look forward to reading your comments.

#Beam
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