4 Questions To Ask Before Accepting The Proposal Of A Younger Man

by - May 11, 2023


Hey Blog Fam

Trust we are all doing great and following hard after all the Lord has placed in our hearts.

Today's blog post is a very sensitive one as it relates to relationships.
When we talk about age, to some ladies, it is just numbers, and to others, it is a great determinant if they will give a yes or no to a proposal.

To those who see age as just numbers and that it has nothing to do with their ultimate decision, good for you, but If you are one of those who don’t know if you can cope with being joined to a man who is a year or ten years younger than you, then this post is for you.

Whichever side of the spectrum you find yourself, you’ll find one or two things to guide you in this decision you are about t make.

The following are questions To Ask Yourself:

1.  Can I Submit To This Man?

Submission is what is expected of every woman in marriage. I have often heard and read that submission(RESPECT) is one of the greatest need of a man. Even the scriptures admonishes that Wives must submit to their Husbands.

Sit down with yourself and ask if you’ll be able to submit to this man even though you are older than him.

By default, our word always feels the man must be older than the lady as that is the only way the lady will find it easy to submit as it wouldn’t look like she is submitting to a man who is younger than her.

But then, submission isn’t only a function of age, while his being older makes respecting/submitting to him easier but if you’ll look at it closely, you’ll see that there are some people asides him that are also younger to you that you respect without any grudge.

So, ask yourself this question.

2.  Is This Man Mature?

While there are men who are mature in every area that matters at 25 years of age, there are some men who are not as matured as the 25 years old man even though they are 35.

Talking about maturity, you might want to ask yourself the following;
Is he spiritually mature (Does he have a relationship with God)?
Is he financially mature (what is his relationship with money)?
Is he emotionally mature (How does he deals with his feelings)

Ask yourself these questions, your answers will guide if you are going to say a yes or a no.

3.  Will I Need To Tell My Family Members?

It might be no big deal to declare the age of your man if he were to be older than you to your immediate family, but since you are the older one here, this is a big question to be answered.

The reason you need to answer this question is so you know how to tell your parents and siblings. Will you tell them as soon as the relationship starts, or you’ll hold on till after some years in marriage.

Telling your family might lead to them into not respecting him as he should be respected, so you might want to hold back from telling them initially until much later when they have come to respect him for who he is and not just the date on his birth certificate. 

This is only a suggestion as you know your family and its dynamics, so if you are sure he won't be disrespected before of his age, please go ahead and tell them.

4.  Can This Man Lead Me?

Beyond the numbers of years he has lived on earth, does this man have a sense of purpose, or is he just one of those men who believes whatever will be will be and so they can just fold hands and watch life as it unfolds.

Age has nothing to do with how serious he is with life, it has more to do with individuals than it is with the number of years they have lived.

Can he lead you?
Does he have a sense of purpose and direction?

Ask these questions.
These questions are only to serve as guide as you weigh it in your heart of hearts.

Don’t throw away a good man whom God sent to you only because of his age, but if after deliberations and prayers, you then feel you are still going to say no, by all means do that. No one will live in that home with you.

Continue to pray for another son of the Father, and I believe he’ll have him delivered to you in no distant time.

You can also brood on this scripture;

I am young, and you are old, so I was afraid to tell you what I think. 
I told myself that you ought to speak, that you older men should share your wisdom. 
But it is the spirit of Almighty God that comes to us and gives us wisdom. 
Itt is not growing old that makes us wise or helps us to know what is right.

Job 32:6‭-‬9 GNT

I ask that the Lord will ultimately help you make the right decision. Amen

There Is So Much Light***

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