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'And He spake a parable unto them to this end, that men ought always to pray, and not to faint; ( Luke 18:1)


Hey Blog Fam, 

Trust we are all doing great and following hard after all that the Lord has placed in our hearts.

I apologize for the silence for these past two weeks, I have no excuse for the silence, but the good thing is we are here, a post that will bless you is up, and trust that you will be tremendously blessed reading it. 

This post was first published on this Blog on the 16th of June, 2020, and almost two years after, I believe it will bless you in no small way. I have added a few more notes to the sub-headings which is as a result of my growth in the past 2 years.

If your prayer life in the first quarter of the year wasn't so consistent, or you are plainly just looking forward to having a richer prayer life, then I pray that as you go through the words of this Blogpost, you will be stirred up to deepen your relationship with the Lord. Amen. 

Without further ado, let's get right to today's post. 

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I remember while growing up, it was common to hear people singing this song in church,

Prayer is the key, prayer is the key, prayer is the master key, Jesus started with prayer and ended with prayer, prayer is the master key.

This song talks about how important praying is, but as I began to grow up, I realized that although prayer is so important, there are times when I find myself not praying for a long time despite knowing how important it is to pray.

There are times when amidst the hustle-bustle of life and living, you suddenly wake up to realize that the last time you prayed alone was three months ago.

Prayerlessness might be due to a lot of things like a change in environment, a new assignment, a new schedule, or even a change in status (from a single to a married individual), but as genuine as all those excuses might be, no excuse is ever worth giving. 

There are times when things we never planned for might just begin to crop into our daily schedules and before we realize it, it has been days, weeks, or months since we really prayed. While some of us might still be able to whisper some words of prayer as we take our bath, or a plus Jesus minus Satan kind of prayer as we are locking the door of our apartment on our way out, for how long do we intend to keep up with that kind of life?

It is usually to the devil’s delight when we don’t spend time in prayer, as he knows what we stand to gain by talking to God and what we lose when we get too busy to pray. Prayerlessness makes you become more cranky, easily annoyed, more prone to other vices, this is possible because when you don't pray your flesh becomes stronger and your spirit becomes weaker, but to make sure that the devil isn’t winning this battle against your soul, then we must be very disciplined in this regard.

Like every worthwhile project, prayer needs a measure of discipline.

I know how easy it is to pray, it is easier to listen to songs, listen to messages, and some othertimes even read the bible than it is to pray.

While some of us enjoy studying the bible to pray, but one thing we should realize is that they must both go hand-in-hand if we will ever be able to fully live the God-kind-of-life here on earth.

So to jump back to praying after a long break;

 

1.     Admit That You Haven’t Been Faithful

To thy own self be true.

I love the above statement so much. While it isn't good to deceive others, you can still do that and get away with it, but if you are deceiving your own self, hmm. 

If you haven’t been praying as much as you should, then admit to yourself that you need to wake up from your slumber.

If you still keep pacifying yourself, saying statements like "I pray for two to three minutes before I sleep every day" that will only keep you under the blanket of prayerlessness but as you admit where you are, you can then make progress from there.

Let me use this analogy, when you are trying to take an uber, the first thing the app will ask you is your current location, while it is important to you to get to that beautiful party that you are going for, the app might not be able to help you if you are not first imputing your current location.

This is the same thing I am asking you to do to your prayer life. 

Admit where you are!


2.     Don’t Make Prayer Time An All-me Affair

One of the reasons why people suddenly lose interest in praying is because they see prayer as just something that totally revolves around their lives and families. 

If you keep praying every day just about you, your parents, and your siblings, it is only a matter of time before you begin to run out of prayer points. If you come from a small nuclear family like mine which is only four (father and mother inclusive), then you’ll know that just praying just for your family every day of the week is definitely going to be wearisome.

But, you can take out time to pray for other people;

Friends

Mentors

Colleagues at work

Course mates

Country

People trying to conceive (both those you know personally and those you don’t)

People going through one hard time or the other

People on the verge of committing suicide

People whose homes are on the verge of breaking

People whose lives aren’t going the way they want

People who are confused and who want clarity

People who are looking to God for a spouse

People with stubborn children

Men and women of faith (those men and women whose messages are on your phone/laptops need prayer too).

.

.

.

The list is endless.

Prayer of intercession is great.

With this type of prayer, you can never run out of people to pray for, and you’ll realize that by praying for these different categories, you will be able to tarry in the place of prayer as against if your prayer was just centered on yourself and everything that revolves around you.

 

3.     Pray In The Spirit

If you have been baptized in the Holy Ghost with the evidence of speaking in tongues, please as much as often, pray in the spirit. There is extra energy this gives you.


4.     Know What Works For You

Till tomorrow, I for one will continually envy those who can pray on their knees for hours, one of the best ways to catch me sleeping in the place of prayer is for me to be on my knees. And there are others who can pray for hours without end on their knees. Just know what works for you.

I pray more when I am pacing around or having a prayer walk, the time just goes by. 

If you discover that you feel more tired when you are kneeling to pray, then stand up to pray, pace around, there isn’t any rule that says you must pray on your knees. While kneeling connotes a submission stance, but since you won’t actively be able to talk to God that way, then stand, he is the one heart whom you are praying to and he sees you. The most important thing to do is to pray.


5.     Get Resources To Help

One of the good things God has given us via social media is the ability to be able to access sounds and tunes by gospel minstrels just by the click of a button. 

There are different ministries that have recorded sounds that you can listen to and be energized to pray.

Get books on the subject of prayer too.

Get resources to help you on this journey.

Getting the resources is only the first step, if you don't use them, they won't profit you at all, so go ahead to get them and be committed to using them. 


6.     Rely On The Help Of The Spirit

There will be times when you will want to pray and your body/flesh has other plans, after you have done all you should, allow yourself to be carried on the wings of the spirit, you’ll find yourself praying more on those days than you normally would have done.

Remember, we do not know how to pray, but it is the Spirit who intercedes for us with groaning that cannot be uttered.


Have a great time talking to the Father!



There Is So Much Light***

March 31, 2022 No comments

 


Hey Blog Fam,

Trust we are all doing great and following hard after all that the Lord has placed in our hearts.

To all my female-readers, trust you had a wonderful celebration of the International Women's Day.

And as a way of celebrating with the  #IWD, this post is dedicated to the women!

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As a lady there is this great feeling that comes with having a beautiful face that draws comments from people, and it even goes higher when you as a person know you look good. There is usually this temptation to devote time and energy to making sure no hair is out if its place and that you’re always on fleek all of the time.


Beautiful ladies are all over the place and with the increase in skin products where you can have any desired skin type; the job has really gotten easier, and it seems the goal of every lady is to be beautiful on the outside while leaving every other aspect of life lacking. 

Looking good in itself is not a crime, buying skin product for your body, investing in exfoliating cream and other skin product to make the skin look better is not the challenge, but it becomes a crime when other aspect of life is left unattended to.


Recently a friend of mine celebrated his birthday, I called him to felicitate with him, at some point I asked him how he celebrated his birthday, he told me his cousin got married and that was where he spent his day. Coincidentally, I also know a lady who was getting married that same day and it happened to be that it was the same lady we were both talking about.


I didn’t know when I said 'your cousin has hit jackpot' and I sincerely meant it. While that statement is not because of the beauty of the lady or her parent’s social status, it was neck deep on the personality of the lady is herself.


There are some people that upon hearing they are getting married or they just got married, you just summarize in your heart that their spouse has hit raw gold, because knowing what you know about them, you can almost see how great the future will be with God on their side.


Now to the beautiful lady, in what ways are you allowing yourself to be groomed that when people hear you are getting married they can't help but envy that lucky man.

In what ways are you also allowing yourself to be groomed that it won't just be about what others are saying but the man himself will know he has hit jackpot.


I know the epistle according to most people is to look beautiful on the outside because that is what most people see first, but with the beautiful face, what else are you adding?


It's great to have a beautiful face and a body figure that is great, but asides that what else will you be bringing to the table?

Just like being a virgin alone as at the time of marriage is no guarantee that a marriage will be successful (this is not to water down virginity AT ALL) and because virginity alone cannot sustain a marriage does not mean we have to lose our sexual purity stand. But just like you have to add somethings to your being a virgin (if you're one) so also you need to add somethings to your beautiful face. 

Let me share three things you can add to your beautiful face that is guaranteed to make you stand out now, and also in the future.



1. Add Virtue & Character


Being virtuous has little to do with a beautiful face and more to with the intrinsic parts of who that person is beyond the face value.

It's so disheartening to see that it’s almost as though the more beautiful a lady is, the less virtuous she tends to be, and this is due to the fact that she believes that there is nothing her beauty can't give to her and the beauty can also allow her ride roughshod on others without caring whose horse is gored.


Be virtuous, don't pretend to be virtuous, but you can start imbibing this culture into your daily life.


The Bible has given us a breakdown of a virtuous woman; check it out in Prov 31:10-31


Check the number of times when she did other things and then the times she devoted to her physical appearance. You'll be surprised it's a whopping ratio of 20:1.


This shows the importance of virtue.


Go out of your way to do things for people below your status


Help not just an eligible suitor but one who doesn't even look eligible


Be a woman of solid character.


Ever seen a beautiful woman shouting at a restaurant attendant before or a young lady insulting an elderly person in public, I'm pretty sure at the moment you wouldn't really how beautiful she is but how much she lacks character.


And like they say, character cannot be hidden for too long, just like smoke; it has its way of always coming out of its hiding place


2. Add Knowledge

Be knowledgeable, asides your beautiful face, what else do you know about?

Asides drawing of eyebrows and adding lipstick on the mouth, know what is going on inside of you.


Know what is going on in the career path you are treading, know a little about politics, know a little about investment, know a little about real estate, know a little about what it takes to buy a land and build upon it, know a little about cars, know a little about venturing into a new business, know a little about parenting, know a little about keeping a home, know a little about managing people, just keep learning.


Just a little here and a little there, before you know it, you’ll be able to hold intellectual conversation with people. Don’t just be an extremely woman with little or nothing in her brain.


I heard about a man who was married to an extremely beautiful woman, there was no doubt about the woman’s beauty at all, after a while, there was a dinner party organized by his company and he was given ticket for two. He had no challenge bringing his wife because he was sure other guys within the company were definitely going to praise him for marrying such a beautiful woman, the only challenge he knew he was going to have was when she opened her mouth to talk. He knew how shallow she was in her thinking. She was extremely beautiful on the outside but wasn’t knowledgeable on the inside.


Asides the joy it would bring to your spouse, it will help better your life in no small way too.


You don’t want to be that type of woman who can not hold an intelligent conversation except the trending film on Netflix.

Know something about many things.



3. Add the fear of God


Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.

It isn't enough to just have a beautiful face, but with the beautiful face, have a great passion for the Lord.

Have you ever considered how much asset your beauty is to the kingdom?


Through your beauty, you can even bring in people to the church, they'll approach you because of the beautiful face you have, they'll follow you to church for that same reason, and then the king of the kingdom will then take them for himself.


Love God, love him with a reckless abandon both in your closet and in the public. Don't be too beautiful to be associated with Him. You didn’t make yourself, He made you that beautiful.


Trust God and not your beautiful face. If you're unmarried, ask him for a man your beautiful face won't be able to give you.


The beauty itself will diminish with time, it is fleeting.


Ever seen a woman of 80 years before? I'm sure no man would want to woo her, so also, you'll become like that one day, what will be left.

What else would you be able to give your home and the world at large by the time the face is all wrinkled?


I read about a story some years back, and one of the characters in that story was an old woman, she only wasn’t old but was even still serving as a spiritual pillar for her granddaughter as well as a mentor for a CEO, now that’s the kind of woman I want to be and that is what the scriptures promise us.


Psalm 92: 14

They will still bear fruit in old age; they will stay fresh and green


With your beautiful face, add Character, Knowledge and the Fear of the Lord. 


There Is So Much Light***



March 10, 2022 No comments

 




Hey Blog Fam,

Trust we are all doing great and following hard after all that the Lord has placed in our hearts.

So, today we are talking about taking charge of your day which simply means taking charge of your time.

Time! Time! Time!

I know how frustrating life can be when you have a lot to do and you wake up with a bang, only for you to feel less than motivated during the day to carry through those things you decided to do.


 Thinking back to a particular time in church, we were considering stewardship as a theme in the Sunday school, and one of those topics we learnt under that theme is stewardship of time. That particular lesson helped me see the many things I was doing wrongly every day and also how to start investing my time well. Although I was much younger when that lesson was taught, but the lesson formed the bedrock for the time-management skill I now have.


The body loves comfort so it usually just wants to stay in bed all day, or just sit behind a TV all day without achieving those things you consider important. While it’s not a bad thing to rest the body or watch TV, the only danger in those things is the fact that we will be over-indulging our body, and more important things won’t get done.


We all want to get the best out of our day, but often times we don’t get to do just that , So, how do you lazy-proof your  day?


1. WRITE A DAILY TO-DO LIST


This is a list that carries everything you’ll be doing for a day. It is best written the night before or very early in the morning before many things begin to call for your attention.


Writing a to-do list helps maximize the day and helps you deal well with the twenty-four hours each days brings. Your to-do list has to contain the things you consider major for that day, and you can also put in time frames to help you get the best out of every moment that passes by. You should also prioritize on your list those things that are extremely important and that must be done on that day.


Your daily to-do list should contain daily steps of what is in your monthly goal or weekly goal. For example, if one of your weekly goal is to finish reading a book that has twelve chapters, your to-do list for the days in that week must include to read at least two chapters of xyz book, and you’ll discover that at the end of the week, you’ll have successfully finished that book. That same principle can be used to achieve any other goal of yours.



2. RECOGNIZE YOUR DISTRACTIONS AND DEAL WITH THEM


To get the best out of your twenty-four hours every day, identify what your distractions are and fortify yourself against them. Distractions is relative because what serves as distraction for Kunle might not be able to distract Femi. For some, their major distractions is their phone, for others it’s a friend at work whom upon seeing each other every plan for that day goes into a ditch.


Yours might not be your phone or a friend, find out what your distractions are, and do your best to get things done against all odds.


 If your phone is your major distraction, you can decide not to switch on your data until a particular time of the day or not to even check the mail for the day until a particular time, if yours is gisting endlessly with a colleague at work neglecting the things you have to do, budget that time into your to-do list too, or you might decide to only talk with that colleague when you have done some particular things on your to-do list.



3. HAVE A REWARD SYSTEM

This is something we often times don’t do that makes us feel stuck in between the day and we can’t seem to get the best of each day.


To create a reward system, know something you really appreciate and then make it a kind of reward for achieving anything you say you would, or for successfully crossing out all the things on your to-do list at the end of the day.


 For example, if you have five major things on your to-do list in the morning, you can decide to reward yourself by probably buying a plate of your favorite meal or an additional fifteen minutes on social media to watch your favorite series on YouTube, or just anything whose thought can keep you motivated as you go through for the day.


We can be better stewards of the time God gives to us if only we can decide to, and with his help, we will get it done.


Cheers to many more productive days.


There is so much light ***



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