Hey Blog Fam,

Trust we’re all doing great and following hard after all that the Lord has placed in our hearts.

So today’s post is a continuation of last week's post to guys, so if you missed that, kindly click on this link to read it before going ahead with today’s Blogpost.

So we ended last week's post on training the male-child as much as the female-child, because the male-child you do not train, will frustrate your efforts over the female child you trained if they end up getting married to themselves, or even have reasons to be together.  And for guys who haven’t been trained, now is also a good time to start training yourself.

So in today’s post, we’ll be talking about the three dimensions that everyman should develop himself, I have heard several people talk about these three dimensions and I will only be expounding on them in today's post. Kindly follow through...

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       1. Your Dimension As A Husband

Except for the guys who have chosen that they will be unmarried till death, if you belong to this class, then this might not concern you. But if you know in a place in your heart, that one day in no distant time, you will carry somebody’s daughter home as a wife then you have to start equipping yourself to function in the capacity of a husband.

Beyond the beautiful pictures you will get to snap with your beautiful damsel who will be wearing white on your wedding day, have you ever thought of how you intend to husband her. And this goes beyond just the title husband. 

Beyond the macho physique, you will be expected to be responsible for this life that you will be bringing to join your life.

Responsibility will be the order of the day in that new season of life, no wonder when a man gets newly married, he is said to have joined the clique of the responsible men. Does this mean that the single guys are irresponsible? Of course not, it just goes to show that the married man is supposed to show a higher level of responsibility.

Do you have to wait till you are married before showing that responsible part of you? The answer to this is NO.

You can begin your rehearsals with your siblings, your friends, your parents, and the list continues.

The person you will be when you will get married will not be any different from the person you are now except if you start doing things differently.

How do you care for your younger siblings? 

Do female colleagues feel safe around you? 

Are you the one who is so critical and judgmental that no one wants to come around you?

Do you genuinely care for people around you?

The above are some of the questions you need to answer.

You don’t have to wait to be a husband before being a husband, just like you don't have to wait till you become a wife before being a wife.

Asides from being physically intimate which is solely reserved for your lawfully wedded spouse, let your life shows that you are a husband-material.

Kindly note that your husband-materialness should be shown with boundaries too.

2.       2. Your Dimension As A Father

After getting married to that beautiful damsel, in a couple of months or years as God wills, you boh will have children being entrusted to you by God, children who will come into this world as innocent as they can come, and you will be expected that you take care of them and nurture them.

In our world of today, we have seen fathers who are absent in the lives of their children, fathers who are only about pursuing the bread that the children will eat without any concern for how the children are growing, and the kind of values being instilled in them. 

Is it wrong for fathers to provide for their family? Of course not, one of the hallmarks of being a father is the ability to provide. But this zest to provide must be balanced. Don't neglect your children and their formative years on the alter of wanting to make enough money to buy pieces of stuff for them and give them a comfortable life. Make as much money as you can, but let that money not be made at the expense of the life, destiny, and future of your God-given children. 

Indeed, mothers have their place, but the place of fathers too can not be underestimated.

We have broken children all over the world looking for their fathers in any man they see and thereby falling into the hand of wrong men, if only such fathers were around to show the needed love and support the child needed, such a child would have grown up secured in the love of her father and would not have fallen into the hands of wrong men.

Read: TO THE LADY WHOSE FATHER WAS NEVER THERE

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As a father, is there any guarantee that your being there for your children will result in them turning out nicely, we do not know, but one thing you would have done by being a father in every way possible is that you would have done your fatherly assignment and declared innocent of any path your child decides to take.

For a single guy, how do you behave to the children around you, are you a tyrant, what about your disposition to the toddlers, how do you behave to the teenagers around you?

By answering the above questions from your single days, you are laying a solid foundation of being able to be a worthy father to your own biological children.

3.      3. Your Dimension As A Priest

Yes!

The times are changing when we will only see and hear women wake up in the night to pray for their children, or when for every time a gathering of prayer is called, women are more in the program while the man of the house is at home watching football.

The times have changed!

Now, we are having men staying the night praying for their families.

Now we are having men ensuring that regardless of what happens in the world, their territory (their home) is fully secured.

Now, we have been who enforce the kingdom of God in their home, and declare that their home will not be a joint for the enemies.

A different breed of men is arising.

Priests!

Kindly join the army.

Enough of only women who are prayerful and worded.

Enough of only women who enforce the will of God in their home.

There is a new order of men rising who won’t take No of any kind for an answer, who will refuse to lose any of their child to the ills of this generation.

Am I saying Mothers should not pray? Of course not. Both partners have to pray.

If what we are seeing in our world of today is only as a result of the woman’s prayer, how much more good will be wrought when the men take their place too.

It will be so great!

And you don’t have to wait till you are married to start operating in these three dimensions, you can start to prepare now, your dimension as a husband, your dimension as a father, and as a priest.

Trust that in all of these three capacities, you won’t fail God. Amen.

Till we meet next week for another post…

There Is So Light*** 

Hey Blog Fam,

Trust we are all doing great and following hard after all the Lord has placed in our hearts.

So, today’s post is centered on the male-folk today, I sometimes write women-centered posts like this and this, but the spotlight is on the male gender today.

In our generation of today, we find that so much attention is given to raising the woman with seemingly little attention is given to raising the man, especially when we compare them.

There is a lot of women-only WhatsApp groups, so many ladies conferences, ladies support groups, all geared towards ensuring that the woman is a total being and lives a full life, and is also prepared for the role she would have to play in the life of her significant other when the time comes

But today, permit me to talk about the male gender.

We have seen from real-life experiences, that no matter the training we give to a lady, and how properly trained she is, if the man she eventually settles down with is not trained as she is, it is so possible that all the training we claim to have given the lady will not be of good use in the light of the man she is with.

To bring this into context, let’s talk about a lady; Dara, who has been trained to develop herself in all aspects of life, she is intelligent, has a great career, is domesticated, and to crown it all has a healthy relationship with God. Dara then meets and falls in love with Daniel, she is convinced that she wants to spend the rest of her life with him. Daniel has his career going well,  but, his relationship with God is on the low, his character is almost zero, and he can’t even tidy up his room, and he considers washing plates something beneath the male-child.

Because Dara is so much in love, she sees the flaws but doesn't acknowledge them as something that might ever become a big deal, and she goes ahead to get married to Daniel.

They have a beautiful time together for about five months, and Dara gets pregnant. Only that with the pregnancy, Dara becomes weak, she can hardly cook like she has always done before, but Daniel couldn’t help out at all in the home, he wasn’t even willing to learn. 

Dara finds that she is beginning to lose her home training, she is starting to shout at her husband, she rarely allows her husband to have his way with her, why would she give her body to who doesn't care about her? 

Things deteriorate to the level that they began to keep cold malice which was one of the things she had earlier vowed would never happen in her home. She remembers a meeting she had with her girls, she had proudly told them that on no account will she and her husband ever go to bed angry at themselves. She had told them that the sun was never going to set on their anger as she was going to be a virtuous wife, she would apologize on some days and her husband would be the one to apologize on some days, in short, they were going to be a formidable team.

Hmmmmm

But here she is, barely six months into her marriage and she and her husband haven’t had a proper conversation in the last 2 weeks except for the necessary good morning, I am fine, and what's for dinner he sometimes asks when he comes back from the office.

She knew she didn't do anything bad, and even if she were to be wrong, a proper man would have apologized for peace to reign. She had learnt that it takes two people to quarrel, even if she wasn’t apologizing, he could do it.

The height of it was when she went to the hospital to have their daughter, she had been delivered through a caesarian operation and had to stay in the hospital for a couple of days. Daniel, being excited at the arrival of their baby had come to visit her every day, and the birth of the child seemed to bring them closer. Thank God for her mother-in-law who was living in the same state as they, Mama was the one who was bringing in food for her, especially the meals she was craving, and between the food mama was bringing and the food the hospital was serving, she was well-fed.

The birth of her daughter had brought her so much joy, but that joy was quickly tainted when she got home to meet dust on the couch, and as she just strolled into the kitchen to take a glass of water, she met the shock of her life when she saw the disposable plates that her husband had used in purchasing food during her absence all piled up in the kitchen, and as though that was not enough, she opened the pot that contained the last meal she cooked before the delivery and saw that it has spoilt.

Hey Blog Fam,

Trust we are all doing great and following hard after all the Lord has placed in our hearts.

So today’s post will be centered on the second line of the intro line.

What has the Lord placed in your heart, that you are following hard after?

I know this is a very difficult conversation to have because it is easy for us to be able to get to our core while we are running here and there trying to put food on our table, increase our net worth and build strong investment portfolios, invest in cryptocurrency and buy the latest coin, while still trying to look like someone who just walked out of of a magazine, and have our hair on fleek and take beautiful pictures with our significant other with the hashtag #couple goals.

Just writing about it is making me daydream sef.

But while all that has been listed above are great, I believe there is more to life.

Can the reason why you are on earth be to just amass wealth, snap pictures, travel around the world to see exciting places, and birth children. 

Can this be all?

So, if there is anything we are all constantly looking for, it is answers to our questions.

We have endless questions. Questions like;

What is my purpose is for on earth?

How do I fulfill it?

Am I enough?

Read: One Lie That We Often Believe

While I will not claim to have all the answers to these questions, permit me to share with you some of those things that have helped me in my life journey, tips that have helped me from where I used to be to where I currently am.

So in talking about the job you have to do on earth, there are a few things to note;

1.       1. Start With The Generics

Mike goes to a conference and sees the mighty ways God is using the invited minister; Apostle Nath, he goes back home crying to God to show him that specific thing He will have him do, but Bro Mike has not done prayed in the past week, he is not kind, he does not help the needy, he does not lend a hand of support to the person next door, he does not share the knowledge he has concerning a subject matter with others who aks for it, he doesn't go to church regularly as he is usually tired every Sunday, but our dear brother is continually crying to God to use him.

Are there things you don’t know, you are just like most of us, but rather than focusing on the details you don’t know, do something with the details you know.

What you currently know is enough. Use it well.

Yours might be to be diligent in your church choir, and as you remain diligent there, what God would have you do starts to unfold. A good percentage of the music minstrels that we currently have in the body of Christ today have their roots in singing or playing the instruments in their local assembly while they were much younger, nobody suddenly rises up, it is a process.

Yes, while it might look like God is using some people in some specific dimensions, permit me to inform you that it didn’t start out that way, they were been obedient to the seemingly small instructions, they ensured they were listening for God’s instructions every step of the way, and as they continued in the relationship with Jesus, more of what the Lord will have them do began to unfold.

2.       2. Nothin Happens Without A Relationship With Jesus

Yes!

Let’s start this point from where we ended the first one, everything starts and ends on our relationship with Jesus.

It is in Him we live, move, and have our being.

There is nothing we want to have or be that can be outside Him.

If you are consistently looking for what role you are to play in the grand scheme of things, you can’t find your answer outside your relationship with Jesus, everything you are looking for has its roots in Him because He alone is the one who sustains all things. 

How is your Bible study life?

How is your prayer life?

All of these things have to be in place first.

You can't dish out food from an empty plate, you have to be full of the Lord yourself before you can give out of that fullness. 

3.      3. You Are Enough

We all have a past.

And while we might not be super proud of those things we have done in times past, we can not allow them to hinder us from what God will have us do in this season.

After we have given our lives to Christ, that does not mean we suddenly forget about all that we have done before accepting the Lordship of Jesus. But even though we were not granted amnesia of all of the wrongdoings of our past, we owe this new life that we have in Christ the need to walk in the newness that we have been granted.

Rather than cringing about why God would want you who have aborted several times to be the one who will be talking to ladies on the need to stay chaste, why not accept it as what  God has called you to do.

Your past doesn’t define you.

You have been bought with a price.

You are no longer the lady who used to sleep around.

You are no longer that guy who couldn’t keep his zipper up and had to sleep with anything in a skirt.

You are no longer the lady who used to spend hours without end watching pornography.

You are no longer the guy who used to masturbate every morning and night.

That lady died when you gave your life to Christ.

That guy died the moment you said Yes to Jesus.

Accept this newness.

It is your reality!

So rather than cringing away from what you feel God is tugging your heart towards, no matter how insignificant you might think it is. Run towards it and embrace it!

Just like the Lord called Moses, you are the one for this Job. You know what job God is calling you to do for him. Please answer Him. 

Will it stretch you? of course yes.

Will it be worth it in the end? A big Yes.

Let me end by asking you this question, God is calling you. Will you answer?

There is so much light***

Hey Blog Fam,

Trust we’re all doing great and following hard after all that the Lord has placed in our hearts.

So today's post is centered on times and seasons, and how they relate to life.

If there is one thing I have come to discover about life, it is the fact that nothing goes forever and some things are forever.

Let me explain.

We have January every year, we had it in the year 1960 even though I was not yet on earth then, we have it in the year 2022 which is the year this post is being published, and we will have January 2095 if Christ tarries. But while this January will keep repeating itself at the beginning of every year, it is not the same January that you will have every year.

A woman who was single in January 2021 will not be that same single lady in January 2022 that just passed a few days ago, though she is still single in January 2022, she is different from who she was in 2021. She did not only increase in age, but the times have also changed. If she had wanted to learn a skill and didn't get to it in January, 2021, she might find it harder to learn it in January 2022 because the dynamics of her life would have been different from what it was the previous year.

January 2021 although the same as another  January in 2022, it is not the same at all.

So in talking about times and seasons, these are my thoughts...

1.         Time Is Dynamic

Time does not wait for anyone, and even if you do nothing with the hours you have, it will still leave.

Recently, I was going through my journal of some years ago, I wrote in one of them how I wanted to start a professional course that year, that particular year passed and I did not do it.

Now, I am in a season where I am wishing I did that professional course when I wrote it, but either I like it or not, that time is past and I can only make do with the present which is mine to possess.

So if you have anything that you’ll like to do, rather than procrastinating it, or leaving it to chance, grab the opportunity and do it Now.

Time waits for no one!

2.           Seasons Change

No today does not mean No forever; I learned this from a beloved teacher of mine.

The fact that you cannot afford to do some things now does not mean you will not be able to do them forever.

The fact that you are denying yourself from buying something now does not mean you will have to deny yourself forever.

And just like seasons change for the positive, also realize that good times have their own downtime too, learning from the story of Pharaoh who had had a dream that the lean cows were swallowing the fat cows, this happens all the time.

Time changes.

And if you are in one of the seasons of downtime, know that another cycle is almost here, and all will change for good.

3.       Focus On Your Focus

Times are different, and there will be different times for different things, so if you are in a certain season where you need to brutally eliminate the things you love to be able do the things that you must do, please do that.

For a working-class man who is studying for another degree, such a man might have to cut down time out with the guys every month, social media time, and even time spent just been idle, doing all of this is to enable such a man really focus on what needs to be focused upon.

Not all times are the same, what you need to focus on in a season will be different from what you will need to focus on in another season, so when you really need to focus, please do so and brutally eliminate anything that is not within your top priorities.

I just wanted to share these thoughts with you, so that as you go through this year, whatever you want to do should be done now, don't procrastinate, don't postpone to tomorrow what you can do today.

Let us part with this word today;

To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. Ecclesiastes 3:1

There is so much light***