Hey Blog Fam,

Trust you're all doing great.

This is one of the books I read recently and I learnt a lot from it.

It's a book written by a Single mother to ladies on the mistakes she made while growing up.

She mentioned how she went from the hands of one man to another seeking for love in the wrong places.

She further points the way to  how she got  and out from that cycle of going from one lover to another in her search for love, and how she can help ladies too not to fall into that pit.

Summary of what I learnt from the book;

1. There are many mistakes that single women make, but one that stood out for me is not choosing a man by the flesh but by the Spirit

His exterior such as height, skin color or height, might not be what we want 100%.

He might not be the ideal height you conjured up in your mind or the weight you want. He might not have the kind of dentition you want your man to have (Yes, some of us are that mundane), but we can trust the Lord's leading. 

The Lord knows what's best. It might not 100% what you want, but it will be 100% what you need.

Anything short of God's leading only leads to tears, premium tears.

2. A Man Undergoing His Process Shouldn't Be Frowned At

While trusting God for a mate, a man who still has a long way ahead of him (Mr Potential) shouldn't be sidelined. 

Small beginnings today doesn't equate a small tomorrow. 

All through scriptures, the opposite is always true, God is continually seen giving assurance of how tomorrow will be great inspite of the littleness of today, and it's so heart-warming that God can be trusted.

3. Drawing Up A List Of What Mr Right Should Be Or Posses Is Great, But How About Flipping The Coin And Becoming The List

While you can have certain traits you want in the man you'll be getting married to, how about becoming that list yourself?

How about getting to that place where you become who you are expecting?

What you want spiritually.

What you want financially

What you want materially.

What you want physically.

What you want behaviourally.

How about becoming all that and more.

4. Looking For Love In The Wrong Places Only Leads To Heartache

The absence of a parent can drive you into a place where you become desperate. A place where you are so hungry for love that you do not care where it is coming from.

That is not a good place to be.

Let the Lord fill those holes that lies in your heart. 

No one on earth can do that.

5. Being Sexually Pure Is Still Of Great Importance

The path of celibacy is still a good path. 

Sex before marriage still remains wrong and should be avoided at all cost. 

It offers nothing good except the pleasure at the moment. Why rush into what can be yours forever?

6. The Importance Of Godly Women Who Are More Advanced In Age Can Not Be Overemphasized

In the author's words, every Ruth needs a Naomi.

There is only so far that you can see, but standing on the shoulders of Godly women will help you see farther.

These are my lessons from the book.

There Is So Much Light***

 Hey blog fam,

Trust we're all doing great, I am doing great over here, currently in a season where I am just taking one day at a time.

So, I remember growing up and how I used to look forward to becoming an adult, I mean I couldn't wait to become those people who get to have two pieces of meat on their food, those who can decide to go out without having anyone question them, those people who always seemed to have money in their purse or wallet, I couldn't just wait to join their league!

Anyways, I grew up fast and here I am too, a full-blown adult, I think it's safe to say I am an adult giving that I am in my mid-twenties abi. 

Anyways do you want to know those things I wasn't aware of when I was still a child? Then keep reading...

1. That Money Doesn't Grow On Trees

I remember when I used to think that every adult had a tree at the back of their house where money was growing on, how I couldn't wait to join those people who were harvesting money.

As an adult now, I am not harvesting money anywhere at all, rather I am learning that I need to make, manage and multiply money

Biko, this wasn't part of what I foresaw.

2. That Adulthood Is Work

From reading in primary school, passing out of secondary school and conquering all the assignments that tertiary indtutions are known for.

You get out of school only to come into work force either as an entrepreneur or an employee and the work continues.

I thought I'll just get to eat my favorite food, sleep as many hours as I wanted, do things without anyone questioning me and all of that.

But now I don't get to do that, I don't get to eat my favorite food everyday, I don't sleep as many hours as I want to, because that will mean I am being slothful and I don't want to eat the bread of idleness, and I am still under authority. I guess I'll always be a woman under authority for as long as I live, from parents, to spouse and mentors. Phew!

This thing called adulthood is work and it wasn't part of the agreement at all.

Thank God we can do all things through christ which stregthens us.

3. That You Get Taxed By Younger Ones

The way we used to tax those egbons, who would have thought we will also become someone who will have to part with few thousands of naira every other month.

Responsibility is what best describes Adulthood.

Thank God I only have a twin sister as a biological sibling who is equal to me in everyway, my heart goes to those who have younger siblings and have to pay dues, well-done.

4. That What You Study In School Might Be Different From Your Job

I grew up thinking that all bankers studied bank-related courses or that all nurses must work in an hospital.

Reality.com, I found out that there are nurses who make a living out of writing and there are accountants who are now interior decorators.

This life ehn.

5. That Sometimes Life Doesn't Go As Planned

I used to think those people who didn't get results in their lives were people who didn't know how to plan.

I mean, if you can plan well enough, then life will just go according to what you have on paper.

Be out of secondary by 16

Be a university graduate by 21

Start working by 23

Get married by 26

Relocate with family by 28

Be through with childbearing by 33

Retire at 50 and travel round the world

.

.

.

Now, as a young adult, I can say that while goals, planning and strategies are key, but sometimes, life just doesn't go as planned.

These are those things I didn't know about adulthood, I used to think it was just a walk in the park, but whatever comes, trust that we'll keep getting bigger every day.

What are those things you didn't know about adulthood until you became one yourself? please share your thoughts in the comments section.

There is so much light***

Hey Blog Fam,

Trust we are all doing great, and following hard after those things God has placed in our hearts.

I teach Sunday School in church and not too long ago, one of the students of my class asked me the above question, while I answered him in class, I felt a need to come share the things I shared in class too.

So, let's diveeee right into it. 

Many of us in this generation feel that the only people who are to keep running after Jesus are those who have been called into ministry, people like pastors, elders in church, Deacons, music ministers and the likes.

This is the category of people whom we have come to put in that box of been Called by God.

But, first things first, after salvation, we all become children of God, we become translated from the kingdom of darkeness into the kingdom of light.

This is what happens to ALL of us.

Then from this level, we start our relationship with God, along the way, some of us might feel called into a certain dimension of ministry, some become Pastors, Apostles, Evangelist...

This call into ministry is only supposed to come as an overflow of what is already going on on our insides. 

Something private which after a while, the Lord will want it to become public.

People don't become servant of God, and then start building their relationship with God.

Their being called into a certain office is as a result of the ongoing relationship, so it becomes pitiable when someone who doesn't have an ongoing relationship with God, then wants to used of God or worse calls himself and says he is called by God.

It isn't right that only pastors are supposed to pray or have personal bible study. This is something expected of every child of God either you bear the title Pastor or you're just a back-up singer in church, or you're just a member of the prayer unit.

A case to mind here, sometimes last year, I felt the need to have a personal study bible, I am a daughter of a pastor, so it is normal to have study bible in my father's collection of books here and there in the house, but at that time of my life, I knew I needed one that was purchased with my money. 

So, I choose a date to visit Bible Wonderland in Surulere, Lagos which is a place where I buy most of my books, while I was going through the various divisions they had there, one of the attendants who was attending to me wanted to know if I was a pastor, I answered in the negative, he further asked if I was a pastor's wife to which I answered in the negative too. 

His expression really showed that of a man who couldn't place why a lady who was neither a pastor or pastor's wife wanted to spend five figures to buy a study bible. 

This only shows what is in the heart of the average person. Pastors are those who should have study bible and pray without ceasing, the rest of of us can go and play.

But, this isn't supposed to be.

The Lord requires of us not to only leave certain dimensions available in Him to some people, but He desires that WE ALL (no one is excluded) should know him.

While there will be people on the pulpit but those of us on the pew have as much responsibility as those holding the microphones too.

That you do not have a public ministry, or that you are not known as a Pastor or cell leader does not mean you shouldn't seek to know God.

Pulpit ministry is only supposed to come from a place of overflow, you have eaten and fed so fat, and then by divine election get to give out of the fullness you have received from the Lord.

So, we all have a commitment to the Lord, to know him for ourselves, pulpit ministry is only a by-product.

So, when next you consider stepping down a little on your personal prayer/study life because you are not a minister but just an ordinary usher in church, remember that it is for you that Christ died so as to reconcile you back to God.

There are certain terms that are not meant for some selected few but for all.

Terms like:

* The Holy Spirit told me

* The Lord told me

* I am going on a retreat

* God wouldn't be pleased if I do that

* I pray certain minutes/hours everyday

The above terms are not mutually exclusive to some people, they are to be in the vocabulary of every child of God.

Let's part with this scripture;

But Moses replied, “Are you jealous for my sake? I wish that all the Lord ’s people were prophets and that the Lord would put his Spirit upon them all!”

Numbers 11:29 NLT

So, public ministry or not, the Father expects us to seek him.

There is so much light***

Hey Blog Fam,

I know there was no Blogpost last week, I am so sorry about that, hope I am forgiven? Thanks.

Between the last time I blogged and today, something significant has happened, I became a year older. 

Yes, Monday, April 5th was a day to celebrate another step in the ladder as it relates to my age.

There's a lot to be grateful in the past one year, let me share 8 items from my grateful list.

1. I am grateful for the gift of life. 

Another year has come and gone and I am so grateful that I am still alive only because I am kept by my God, and not only that, but I am also in perfect peace. So grateful for this.

Earlier this year, I was ill to the point of sleeping over in the hospital as well as being given 8 intravenous drip, but here I am today still standing. Glory!

2. I am grateful for the sense of direction I have in my life at the moment. 

I won't claim to have my life all figured out, but the details I am working with in this season of my life is so exciting. Looking ahead to the many adventures this year and my life in general holds for me.

3. I am grateful for the gifts of friends.

 You know those kind of friends that stays closer than a brother (or sister), I am blessed with such, and I am so grateful for them.

4. I am grateful for all the plans that worked. 

Yes, I had goals for the just concluded year of my life that came to pass and for that I am so grateful to God.

5. I am grateful for the goals that didn't come true. 

I wish I could say all my plans in this just concluded year came true, but that wouldn't be true. 

I know it's not-so-common to be grateful for the plans that didn't see the light of the day, but I am so grateful for that. I thank God for the lessons learnt through this.

6. I am grateful for the gift of fathers and  teachers. 

God has been good to me, and while there are lessons the Lord Himself has taught me, but there are so many lessons I have learnt from my teachers in this season.

I am grateful for men and women in form of fathers and teachers who have been instrumental in the woman I am becoming. So grateful for the gift of them.

7. I am grateful for the fact that I have a job.

I have a 9-5, and this is another aspect that I am also gratful for in this season of my life, while my job has its high and low days like every other job, but I am grateful.

8. I am grateful for my nuclear family. 

Thank God for parents who are in good health, and a twin sister who is kept in perfect peace too.

I am so excited about this new year and everything it holds. Trust that it's going to be the best year yet!

There is so much light ***

Related 

It's Another Birthday; 7 Lessons I Have Learnt So Far