This is such a profound rule for life and living, and the fact that it is from the pages of scriptures takes it to a greater level.

I sincerely think this rule will profit humankind if only we can think about this first before taking actions, or allow every action of ours to come from internalizing this thought. 

There are so many things we will start doing or stop doing only if we can live by this principle.

To the gist of the day...

So, at work, among other things I do, I help sign the form of some people, I help make sure the money the company wants to give them gets into their hands after their service. Let's just say I am in the middle of these men and the company I work with.

So, they came to do their job as usual and it was time to help them sign so they can get their money, I got to the accounts department of the company only to be told there was no cash at the moment and if I could hasten up, another lady who was going to the bank will be able to help deposit the money into my account and I'll be able to pay those men.

That was how I went into overdrive, I quickly wrote the voucher, ran back to make a duplicate for record keeping, it was when I was rushing to get the documents stapled together, then it dawned on me that I was rushing to get this thing done.

I remember telling my colleague who also doubles as a friend that I wonder why I am running o, on top money that is not even my own, she then mentioned that it was because I am human (In yoruba, she said Eyan ni e).

That statement of hers got me thinking.

I could very well have been slow about the whole process, at worse if the lady goes to the bank without my cheque, then we can always pay them later.

I realized that I was only behaving to them in a way I would want others to behave to me if I were in their position.

If someone was in charge of my own paycheck, I'd want that person to go all out too.

Amdist every thing we are to do in life, and combining them with all the balls we have to juggle, some of us have lost that touch of being human.

Do you want to recieve more gifts, give more gifts out too.

Do you want others to dash you money, dash others money too.

Do you want unknown people to pray for you, pray for people who don't know you too.

Do you want people to be kind to you, be kind to others too.

Do you want a faithful spouse, be a faithful spouse too.

Will you want someone to support you when you have a business, do same to someone around you who just started a business.

Will you appreciate if someone stood close to you during your challenging times, stand close to people going through challenging situations too.

Whatever it is you want, just do it to someone else.

Treat others as you would want to be treated.

I sincerely think the world will be a better place if we all treat how we want to be treated.

Bear in mind that the person you did good to will not necessarily be the one to repay it back, God has his ways of ensuring you get paid back. Trust him on this one. He's got you covered.

As you want people to do unto you, do to them!

There's so much light***

I know how valuable time is, and if there is anything common to everyone, then it is the desire to make sure we are living our best lives every day.

There is also something I consider funny about time, time is structured in a way that either you are doing anything with it or not, it keeps moving and expects you to fill it up with things, you won't have anything to show for it once it has passed. 

Either you decide to fill it up or not, it keeps moving, and it will only be in our best interest that we really fill up our time with productive things.

Let me share Five ways I am using in making sure I live my best life every day;  

 1. Write Down Your Daily Plans

There is something called daily to-do list, they serve as guides in ensuring that you do the things you said that you will do.

Time really runs fast, and just before you know it, a day has passed, and before you can say another jack, a week has passed, and before you say another jack, a month has passed by, and that is how a year rolls by without doing anything substantial.

So as not to be caught living life just as it comes, have something(s) you are pursuing daily. 

Get better everyday. This is a good place to play Moses Bliss ‘Getting Bigger Everyday’. Just make sure you are getting better every day by itemizing the things you should do and then take it a step further and actually do them.

2. Do Something In The Direction Of Your Big Goal Daily

This point is a continuation of the first one. 

As we go through life and living, we get to do a lot of things everyday, but even if you keep recording success in those other things, there are only  few things that will truly bring you fulfillment when you do them.

It is in doing those specific things that we feel called to do, or cut out for, that is what really makes us feel fulfilled at the end of the day.

As much as possible, do something that makes it possible for you to achieve your Big goal every day.

Do the basic things you have to do, but don't loose sight of that big thing.

Don't just set the goal and go fold your hands, get to work. Daily work on your goal, doing this brings a level of satisfaction that makes you fulfilled every night that you are going in the direction of living your best life. 

It's not just achieving the big goal that counts, but the progress that leads to the achievement. 

Remember that it's a little here today and a little there tomorrow that becomes what people term as success in future.

3. Use Technology To Your Advantage

Yes, technology can be a blessing or a curse, I wrote an article sometimes back on how you can go on a social media break when it starts to get in the way of your productivity, you can read it here.

In making sure that your day is fully maximized, employ the gift of technology.

Automate the things that can be automated, doing this frees up your mind space for the things your computer can't do for you.

Set alarms to serve as reminders for the things you want to do.

Set a data-limit that you can't go past per day and be committed to it.

Uninstall Apps that you are always wasting time on. 

There is so much work to get done, and the only way it can get done is by making sure everything is working in your favor, and anything that isn't aligning should be re-aligned.

4. Master The Act Of Self-Discipline

What would you do if no one is monitoring your activities daily?

Will you just binge watch all your favorite films on Netflix, or would you work in the direction of your goals?

While watching of films can be a reward for doing what you said you would do, but it shouldn't take all of your time.

You won't always have people monitoring you all the time to make sure you follow through on the things you said you would do, but do you respect yourself that much to honor your words.

Acts of discipline or otherwise most times shows how much value we place on ourselves, this is due to the fact that if you place value on yourself, then you are likely to take yourself more seriously and this will translate in you following through on your plans even if no one will know if you didn't.

In being productive, act of being disciplined is a card that makes you play to win.

5. Have An Accountability Partner

An acquaintance of mine once shared how she sends her daily goals to her accountability partner in the morning, and then comes back to review the goals at the close of work every day.

For people who aren’t very disciplined on their own, you can go this route, get someone you can trust to hold you to your word and get the game rolling.

While having someone to report yourself to does not automatically lift the work off your shoulder, but it makes you want to push harder because you wouldn't want to feel the shame that comes from having to report back to someone that you failed.

The human body loves lazing around, and just chopping life, but there are things that must get done, and they wouldn’t do themselves, so it is you who must shun every bit of laziness and do what must be done.

Will you feel like doing the things you should do everyday? 

Of course not, remember I told you that the human body likes lazing around. But even when you don’t want to do those things, still go ahead and do them. You can’t always wait to get in the mood, no one would accomplish much that way. 

When you feel like, get to work, when you don’t feel like, still get to work.

There will be a lot of time to rest when we get to heaven, but while we are here, work must be done! 

Rest too, but just create a balance.

There is a thin line between resting and being lazy. Sometimes, I can be like this too, I'll be proclaiming I am resting whereas I am only trying to avoid doing the things I should do.

But, one thing I am continually doing is making sure my lazy days are declining, while my productive days are on the increase. This should be you too.

Having a great life doesn't come by chance, we have to be intentional about the kind of life we are building.

You know what you have been called to do, you know what makes your heart tickle, say bye to unproductive life, and fully come on board on this productive living lane.

There is so much light***

The word Friend is one word that has been abused a lot of the time, and this is because some have had experiences from friends that even an enemy wouldn't have done.

It's quite unfortunate that as a result of theses experiences with these so-called friends, some have vowed never to allow anyone into their space again.

The challenge with building walls to keep others out of your life is that, you as a person gets trapped within those walls too. No is allowed to come in, but you are not going out too.

In a bid to justify the fact that you have built those walls, you might start claiming that your relationship with God is all you need, while this is true, but there are things God will do for us through the relationships that we are in. 

There is a popular saying that If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together

There is so much good that can come from having the right people in your corner, so much good.

There is only as much that you can hear about or think of as an individual, but having the right people in your circle can take things to yet another greater level for you. 

You might have been doing so well on your own, smashing all your goals, creating systems that makes all your goals achievable, but having the right relationships can take your whole life a step higher, give you perspectives on things you might never see if you were just working on your own.

There is something called looking at something with a fresh eyes, this is one of the benefit great friendships give you, they help you look at things and help you point out to the things you might have missed on your own.

This is one scripture I love so much...

 9.Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. 

10. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. 

11. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? 

12. A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.  Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 NLT

Yes, this scripture is majorly used when talking about the marriage relationship, while marriage relationship takes the oneness game to another level, but what about before you get married? We need friends!

There should be people in your life that you can be vulnerable with and that can be vulnerable with you too.

God never designed man to be alone, while they are times when situations might warrant that you seek the Lord's face on your own or that you do things just by yourself, but these times are only exceptions to the rules. It doesn't happen all of the time.

You need your tribe, we all do.

You are not meant to live in isolation.

As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend. Proverbs 27:17 NLT 

All over scriptures, we saw people having friends.

David had a friend.

Daniel did.

Jesus had his own friends too.

One master card of the enemy to get believer down is make sure they are alone, taking offence with those meant to cover them.

Friends will offend you, but it is in your best interest not to shut everyone out of your life based on that premises.

There are things God does for us by himself, and there are others he makes possible for us through the instrumentation of friends.

You really do need people. You do.

Trust that the Lord will bring great relationships your way.

There is so much Light***

The union between a man and a woman is meant to typify the union between Christ and the church, but as the years roll by, we have come to see some couples pulling out of this union thereby leaving the children without the stability that comes from a family that is closely knitted. 

Mothers are as important as Fathers, and the fact that one of them can't bring a child into the world without the other shows that the child needs both parents, and while there might be reasons why either of the parent is not around, the child is the one who bears most of the brunt.

From times past, girls have always loved their daddies, it is just what it is. It's not unlikely for you to hear a 60 years old woman calling herself a daddy's girl. There is this security that comes from the daddy-daughter relationship, and it's quite saddening that some ladies don't get to enjoy this because of one reason or the other.

Some months back, I read a book where the author was a lady with an absentee father, a man who after he got separated from the wife was never there for her.

While the man was never there for her, he wasn't only absent, but he never supported her mom and herself or provide any care for them

While all of these might look unimportant to someone looking at it from outside, but it is very important to a girl-child because the father is her first idea of what a man should be. If she has an honorable father, she'll see all men as honorable, and if she has an abusive dad, she'll see all men as abusive.

Are you a lady with a father who was never there, these are my thoughts to you;

1. God is Your Father

I do not have an absentee father, but even as responsible as my dad is, I have come to discover that there is only so much that he can do.

No mortal man can be all-in-all or do all things for you.

Your biological dad was not there, fine, he has behaved how best he knows how to, it is now left to you to decide if you'll allow that decision or lack of his presence to alter the course of your life.

Find a father in God.

Earthly fathers, no matter how responsible have their limits, they can only do so much, turn to the limitless God.

And to think that these fathers run to him too on their weak days, why not turn to Him?

2. Seek Healing 

Either you'll want to admit it or not, the fact that your father didn't grow up with you will create a need in you, and this need can drive you into doing all sorts of things in a bid to satisfy it. 

It can lead you to looking for love in all the wrong places, but so you can be a person who is whole, seek healing.

It's an eyesore that ladies whose father wasn't there for them look for fathers in every male around, and because that search is from a place of hurt, there is every likelihood that a good choice wouldn't be made.

Talk to God.

Talk to a therapist.

Attend seminars

Read books

Move closely to a family and see the way family should be

Just make sure that before you seek love, seek healing first.

3. Ask God For A Father

Yes, God is ultimately your father, how about you ask him to lead you to someone who will be able to be an extension of his hands to you.

It is not just enough to feel you can do it all, there is still a void of a father that needs to be filled, so ask for who will fill it.

This person might be your local assembly pastor, some older man at work, or someone you know. 

Incorporate this need into your prayers and you'll be shocked how God will bring a father to you.

*** So Much Light***