Talking about age, to some ladies, it is just numbers, and to others, it is a great determinant if they will give a yes or no to a proposal.

To those who see age as just numbers and that it has nothing to do with their ultimate decision, good for you, but If you are one of those who don’t know if you can cope with being joined to a man who is a year or ten years older than you, then this post is for you, you’ll find one or two things to guide you in this decision you are about t make.

Questions To Ask Yourself

1.       1.  Can I Submit To This Man?

Submission is what is expected of every woman in marriage. I have often heard that submission(RESPECT) is one of the greatest need of a man.

Sit down with yourself and ask if you’ll be able to submit to this man even though you are older than him.

By default, our word always feels the man must be older than the lady as that is the only way the lady will find it easy to submit as it wouldn’t look like she is submitting to a man who is younger than her.

But then, submission isn’t only a function of age, while his being older makes respecting/submitting to him easier but if you’ll look at it closely, you’ll see that there are some people asides him that are also younger to you that you respect without any grudge.

So, ask yourself this question.

2.       2.  Is This Man Mature?

While there are men who are mature in every area that matters at 25 years of age, there are some men who are not as matured as the 25 years old man even though they are 35.

Talking about maturity, you might want to ask yourself,

Is he spiritually mature (Does he have a relationship with God)?

Is he financially mature (what is his relationship with money)?

Is he emotionally mature (How does he deals with his feelings)?

Ask yourself these questions, your answers will guide if you are going to say a yes or a no.

3.       3.  Will I Need To Tell My Family Members?

It might be no big deal to declare the age of your man if he were to be older than you to your immediate family, but since you are the older one here, this is a big question to be answered.

The reason why you need to answer this question is so you know how to tell you parents and siblings. Will you tell them as soon as the relationship starts, or you’ll hold on till after some years in marriage.

Telling your family might lead to them not respecting him as he should be respected, so you might want to hold back from telling them initially until much later when they have come to respect him for who he is and not just the date on his birth certificate. This is only a suggestion as you know your family and its dynamics.

4.       4.  Can This Man Lead Me?

Beyond the numbers of years he has lived on earth, does this man have a sense of purpose, or is he just one of those men who believes whatever will be will be and so they can just fold hands and watch life as it unfolds.

Age has nothing to do with how serious he is with life, it has more to do with individuals than it is with the number they bear.

Can he lead you?

Does he have a sense of purpose and direction?

Ask these questions.

These questions are only to serve as guide as you weigh it in your heart of hearts.

Don’t throw away a good man whom God sent to you only because of his age, but if after deliberations and prayers, you then feel you are still going to say no, by all means do that. No one will live in that home with you.

Continue to pray for another son of the Father, and I believe he’ll have him delivered to you in no distant time.

You can also brood on this scripture 

I am young, and you are old, so I was afraid to tell you what I think. 

I told myself that you ought to speak, that you older men should share your wisdom. 

But it is the spirit of Almighty God that comes to us and gives us wisdom. 

Itt is not growing old that makes us wise or helps us to know what is right.

Job 32:6‭-‬9 GNT

Has this post helped you, have you gone through a similar situation, feel free to share in the comments section.

So Much Light!

Social media can be both a blessing and a curse depending on how you use it, but irrespective of all that, you are still supposed to have a little control over your life no matter how small.

This era is quite a digitalized time and everything seems to be bubbling, but there are times when you just have to take a step back from the seemingly fast-paced world and see if you are still you and can enjoy your space even if there are no likes or followers looking at you.

Many people are of the opinion that SM is fake as people only post their highlighted life on it, while this might not be the total truth, but it is still true to a great extent.

Some months back, a lady on my timeline was posting how she was trying to make her braids all by herself, she showed us the process and the total number of hours it took her in getting the final result ready.

Then she mentioned something I consider profound, she said and I quote loosely that she could have left us out of the process and only one to show us the finished product and the start creating lovely hashtags for the finished product. But that is what a whole lot of people do, they'd leave you out of the whole process and make you feel as though nothing is really working in your life.

You'll agree that we all need a break sometimes from these apps that people only post their highlighted lives on.

Pointers That You Need A Break

1. You are becoming depressed due to the perfect life of your online friends

Yes.

Social media pressure is so real.

It is on the media that you'll see the kind of car your friend is driving and you wouldn't even care to know if that car is a non-policy car from the company he work for.

Yes, companies give non-policy cars to their members of staff, it is a car just given to be able to take the employee around and should be want to leave the job, and if his appointment gets terminated, he'll have to drop the car.

And even if that friend of yours bought the car with his money, what makes you think that you can't also work to be able to afford that.

If you start seeing yourself beginning to compare the life of the random person you see online or even that of a friend, and then you begin to use that as a yardstick to judge your life, and you keep falling short, now might be a good time to go offline till you are in a much better place so that you won't end up committing suicide or worse, thinking that God is not faithful.

2. Important Things In Your Life Are Beginning To Slack

You no longer pray

You can't meet with deadlines at work

Assignments are left undone.

The pile of your unread books keeps increasing.

All because you took a seat to Instagram and spent four solid hours there busy scrolling down different news feed. News feed that you can never exhaust even if you stay there for a week, there will always be something new.

If you discover that there are things you consider important that you no longer have time for because you are on the media for hours without end, now might be a good time to take a break until you are able to come back in control.

How to go on The Break

Uninstall the app

Uninstall it and if you'd want to go to the extreme, you can delete it for the duration of your break.

Fill the time with something worthwhile

Recommendations

~Read books

~Take online courses

~Bond more with your offline friends

~Be happy to be by yourself

~Go to places, have fun, take pictures and just let the pictures be on your phone since you don't have to upload them for the world to see.

Remember you only live life once, so determine to live it to the fullest.

Even if you have a business to run online, you can have two phones, one for personal use, and the other, strictly for your business.

So when you are on break but you still need to run your online business, you pick up your business phone and do business on it.

If you'll still be coming online because of your business, make sure you respect yourself enough to only do business when you're online.

No one will know when you stop attending to customers and quickly log into an app, but you know. So respect yourself enough to take a clean break.

One of the thing about social media break is that it'll help you see if indeed your life is full of there are no likes and comments from followers.

It just put things in the right perspective for you.

December is here, month of reflection, take time and go offline.

If you are very active online, you might post it on your timeline or even decide to go offline without prior notice. Whatever you do, just take the time offline to detox.

Let me tell you this for free, you will come back from the break feeling refreshed.

So much light!