by - February 27, 2020

Dear Non-virgin Christian Girl,

As much as we want to shy away from talking about this, but not every Christian sister you see in church is a virgin, while the status of some is as a result of their ignorance or for some pressure from peers when they were much younger or worse rape, some members of the church still see them as damaged goods who are not fit to partake of the blessings of the kingdom because of their past.

For a lady who isn’t a virgin anymore, it’s so easy for you to start feeling like damaged goods or for the thought that you are not like the rest of other Jesus girls to begin to flood your heart.

It’s much easier when you are only dealing with the guilt in your heart alone, but it now becomes extremely difficult when every sermon in church on Sunday seem to be centered on just that, and although you and few people only knows about it but you get tempted to think or imagine that it’s not just you who is in the know of the grievous mistakes you have made when you didn’t know better.

There are times when you’ll feel overwhelmed about the fact that you are just damaged goods, and when you see other Jesus girls getting engaged and getting married to God’s sons, you might think that that way of life isn’t for you considering the things you have done before, and the best option might just be to continue in that path that you have chosen.

But that is not so.

You are just like other Jesus daughters, you have been bought with a prize which is the precious blood of Jesus, and it’s quite interesting to note that your sins has been taken from you as far as the east is from the west, if you have ever traveled from some places in the east to the west before, then you’ll know that it’s several miles apart, and that is exactly how far God said he has taken your sins away from you.

Psalm 103:12 NLT

He has removed our sins as far from us as the east is from the west.

Don’t let the devil make you feel terrible by reminding you of your past life and misdeeds, whenever he does that, remind him of his own future too.

The Bimbo that used to sleep around with different guys is dead, the Chinyere that committed multiple abortions is no longer alive, the Solape that used to have sex with random guys on the street has been buried, the Grace that couldn’t stay sane in a week without having sex no longer lives.

She is now a new creature, old things are passed away, all things have become new!

2 Corinthians 5:17

Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.

That you lost your virginity does not define your worth, see yourself through the lens of your Father.

The Lord desires to give you a new life now that you are in him, believe him, he is not a man that he should lie neither is he the son of man that he should repent, has he said a thing and then has not brought it to pass?

Don’t be tempted to think that you can as well continue to keep sleeping around since you no longer have anything to loose, you might even think that the deed has already been done so does it matter, but it does.

It means something to someone; it means something to God whom has redeemed you, you aren’t worthless all because you allowed your body to be ransacked when you didn’t know better, but now, you do know better, you are  not under any obligation to the life you once lived, you can live a better life founded and rooted in the Father's love for you now going forward.

You might want to consider those things that led you into that way of life so that you can begin to guard against it.

Did you end up under the sheets with different guys because of your search for love which you didn’t get at home?

Did those things happen because you were overconfident in your own ability and didn’t know you were in dangerous zone until you fell?

What other patterns do you notice?

You might want to do this soul searching because without proper understanding of why what happened did, you are more likely to keep repeating the patterns.

Trust in God’s promises to you, he has assured to help you greatly and that is exactly what he will do, he is committed to you.

The God of Rahab the harlot is the same God of the virgin Mary and he doesn't love any of them less. 

You are deeply loved by God, never doubt that, and at the fullness of time, he'll send one of His sons who will be an earthly representation of how much God loves YOU, and with God's help alongside that son of His, you'll be able to bring up children who would be able to honor God with their bodies.

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