I read a book about marriage last year by Gary Chapman :Things I wish I knew before I got married, it was a great book to say the least.

Let me share some of the things I jotted down.

1. Being in love is not a sufficient
foundation on which to build a successful marriage, there is more.

2.  There will time when the initial gra gra (IGG) will not be enough.

3.  Your social, spiritual and intellectual interests must agree, so also your value system and goals must also align.

4.  Marriage is beyond, he/she makes me feel good.

5.  Knowing the primary love language is important.

6.  Basically, we are often more than our parents than we realize, either positive or negative.

7.  Visit you fiancé/fiancée parents to see the environment he/she grew up in.
Our ideas and perceptions of life are strongly influenced by our history, values and personalities and these factors are different for each of us.

8.  The word compromise is not always a negative word especially in marriage, it means to find a meeting place.

9.  Forgiveness goes beyond a felling, it is a decision.
Forgiveness does not equal forgetting, because as human we have both the conscious and the subconscious mind and memories can leap from the subconconcious to the conscious without inviting it.

10.  Confusion over roles is one of the most stressful aspects of contemporary marriages i.e who will do this, who will do that.

These are the little I can write for now.

Trust you got value.